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Exhausted and Confused?   Yes! I need help and more sleep.
Exhausted and Confused?   Yes! I need help and more sleep.
Exhausted and Confused?   Yes! I need help and more sleep.

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  1. Teri Morris says

    Is it possible for this sleep regression to start earlier? I know for sure that we experienced the 4 months sleep regression right at 4 months old. However, my baby is now 6 and a half months old, and can sit up, crawl, and pull her self into a standing position using just about anything, and is also eating solids. I’m finding we’re having a difficult time getting her to go to sleep, all she wants to do is pull herself up on the side of her pack n play and stare at us.

    • Janelle Reid says

      Hi @Teri Morris, thanks for writing to us. Yes, sleep regressions can certainly start earlier, but I’ll also mention that meeting physical milestones like your baby is experiencing can definitely disrupt sleep as well. One app I really enjoyed having when my babies were little was the Wonder Weeks, and I often found it to be very spot on and would indicate fussier/more challenging periods because of different phases of development my baby was going through. Here’s an article we have about the Wonder Weeks: https://www.babysleepsite.com/baby-sleep-patterns/wonder-weeks-chart-baby-toddler-sleep/
      If you need more help with this, let us know! We have a ton of other resources we’d be happy to send your way should you need it. I hope things improve soon!

  2. Megan says

    Baby #2 has been a decent sleeper since he was 9 weeks old and was sleeping 9 hour stretches. Of course the 4 month regression got us, but we got past it and he was waking up only once between 7p-7a around 3-4 a.m.

    He’s almost 9 months old and a few nights ago was up like FOUR times! He would not go back to sleep without nursing, which I just gave in and let him because ZZZZZZZZ we have a toddler and I just need some rest. I went with what was easiest!

    The past two nights, the waking has gotten less. I was very close to calling the doctor because I was convinced he has an ear infection, but now I think it’s just developmental or possibly teething because he has his top and bottom front teeth but it’s been a while since any new ones have come in — so we are due for more!

    Anyway… this is for all the parents who are doubting themselves. Just hang in there and get through this. Our kiddo is pretty easy going at bedtime. I can lay him down fully awake and he puts himself to sleep. He has been this way since a very young age, so that’s been helpful as far as bedtime goes. Night wakes, we just sort of work through when they become more frequent and it usually goes back to once a night after a week or two. I think once a night is pretty typical for a breastfed baby at 8.5 months & honestly it’s doable for us for now.

    • Debbye @ The Baby Sleep Site says

      Hi @Megan – Thanks for writing with your encouraging words for other parents!! We hope that things continue to go well and any new speedbumps that you experience, due to the 8, 9, or 10 month old sleep regression, teething, or anything else are short lived and easy to get through! Good luck and thanks again!

  3. Shohini says

    Hi Everyone,

    My 8 month old baby is waking up after every hour. She sleeps in her baby cot next to our bed. Sometimes she demands a feed and sometimes she goes back to sleep patting her in my arms. Put she refuses to sleep if I pat her in her cot without picking her up. My daughter slept through the night (11pm – 6 am) from 2 to 5 months and once sleep regression hit us, she keeps getting up after every 2 hours. I am exhausted as I have also resumed work now. Please help I don know what to do to make this situation better

    • Debbye @ The Baby Sleep Site says

      Hi @Shohini – Sorry to hear that your little one is waking so often! That is SO tough!!! It sounds like you are ready for some help in teaching your 8 month old to learn to fall asleep on her own! We can definitely help with this! Check out our one on one consultation packages here:
      https://www.babysleepsite.com/baby-toddler-sleep-consulting-services
      And please contact us if you have any questions!

  4. Kemi says

    Hello. My recently turned 10 months old baby has been refusing to take his second nap since he was 9 months 2 weeks. He just keeps babbling to himself or just rocking in the crib. Or some days, he may nap, after being awake for 49 minutes. I have been consistent with the time and done the same thing, he just wouldn’t take the nap. What can I do. He needs his nap

    • Danielle says

      Hi Kemi,
      Thank you for your comment and for visiting The Baby Sleep Site! I’m sorry to hear you’re struggling with your 10 month-old’s sleep. You could be dealing with the 10 month regression, which can be a difficult time, but is temporary, usually only last 2-4 weeks. However, the nap refusal could also be a scheduling issue, depending on when you’re trying to nap him. We have a sample 10 month-old schedule here you can compare with yours: https://www.babysleepsite.com/schedules/10-month-old-schedule/
      I hope this helps, but if you need more resources, please do email us at [email protected]!

  5. Pooja says

    Hi all, I read a lot about why babies start waking up after every few hours at night, as my nights were getting exhausting when my baby started doing this at 9/10 months.

    I then realized that I wake up if I am hungry at night- and so does my baby! This probably happens because they are growing so much, and the food that was enough to last them 5 hours at night in the previous months is just not enough anymore

    I decided to try to feed her proper meals at night so that she’s full. Guess what, it worked!! Now she wakes up only once or twice for a feed.

    This is in no way a medical advise. This is a person opinion and trial that worked. I wanted to share my experience which might be helpful for many new mums.

    • Janelle Reid says

      Hi @Pooja, thanks for sharing what you’ve found works for you! I’m so glad your baby is sleeping better!

  6. Amy B. says

    Hi there!
    I have a 2 year old and a 7 month old that still sleeps in our room in a cradle. We would love to transition him to a crib in his big brothers room, but are worried big brother might be harmful (with good intentions). So for now our only option is to have my 7month old in the room with us.
    He used to sleep very well (9/10 hour stretches) and recently he has been waking up 2-3 times every night and won’t go back to sleep with out being fed. I don’t mind feeding him once per night, but 2/3 times seems excessive! We haven’t tried crying it out with him because it seems impossible when I’m 6 feet away and he can see/smell/hear me.
    Not really sure what to do. Should we get a video monitor and just try putting him in his big brothers room? Should I let him cry it out in the same room as us? I’m worried I’m setting him (and myself!) up for bad sleep habits in the future.

    Thank you!!

    • Debbye @ The Baby Sleep Site says

      Hi @Amy – Thank you for writing! Sorry to hear that your 7 month old has been waking up to three times for a feed! You are free to work on slowly weaning a night feed or two as you work on feeding him more in the daytime to compensate. Whether you do this while in your room or after you move him in with his brother is up to you! Many families have done it both ways. A video monitor will certainly help you feel better with knowing exactly what is going on in their room, or you could even move your toddler out temporarily while you help the 7 year old learn to sleep in their soon to be shared room. We also help families that room share, and still can work on teaching your little guy while in the same room with a room divider or just a make-shift curtain, if you are trying to not be in view. White noise can help in any of these situations too!
      If you would like help creating a specific plan, and help sticking with it, please contact us or consider a one on one consultation package with one of our awesome consultants! You can read about all of our sleep consultation packages here: https://www.babysleepsite.com/services
      Hang in there Amy!

    • Jessica says

      Thank you so much for the helpful insight! This is my first baby and I wasn’t aware of sleep regression at this age. My (almost) 10 month old has begun waking at night, and ruling all else out I am certain that she is simply going through this phase. Thankyou again, your article was of the upmost help! I thought I was doing something wrong!

      • Janelle Reid says

        @Jessica, we are so glad the article was helpful! I hope this passes for you quickly and things are back on track soon!

  7. Zhilamo Mahmoodi says

    Hi there. My 8 1/2 month old baby has been different for the 2 last weeks. I put him to bed 8 o clock every night and he wakes up after 40 minutes to 1 hour. After that he won’t let me lay him down in his own bed. He cries and cries and cries. The only thing that calms him down is to put him in our bed and sleep with him.
    Before this he woked up after I put him to bed in the night, but then i breastfeed him and after, i put him in his own bed without any difficulty.

    • Debbye @ The Baby Sleep Site says

      Hi @Zhilamo – Thank you for visiting our blog! I am sorry to hear that sleep has become a struggle for your 8 1/2 month old! As you have read in our 8, 9, or 10 Month Old Baby Sleep Regression article, sleep can become quite a challenge at this age. If your baby was sleeping well previously, I would suspect developmental changes such as described in this regression, disrupting his sleep. Hopefully this is just a phase and he can easily return to his usual sleep schedule! If things do not smooth out, or if you wish to work on helping him sleep in his own bed again, we can definitely help! Hang in there, and contact us if you would like more help. You can also read about all of our sleep consultation packages here: https://www.babysleepsite.com/services
      Good luck Zhilamo!

  8. Gladys says

    My 9month baby is not sleeping at night for long hours its like something is distributing her that she keeps on waking up every 3 to 4 times at night,she can stay long hours of not sleeping and sleeps for only 30minutes and wakes up very early in the morning.

    Please help me help my baby get some good sleep.

    Thanks
    Gladys

    • Debbye @ The Baby Sleep Site says

      Hi @Gladys – Thank yo for writing and I am sorry that you are struggling with your daughters night wakings and short naps! As you’ve read in this 8,9, or 10 month sleep regression article, sleep problems are VERY common at this age. Hang in there!
      As a place to start, here is a link to our sample 9 month schedule, to use as reference to be sure that she is sleeping at generally good times. https://www.babysleepsite.com/schedules/9-month-old-baby-schedule
      We can definitely help with this issue, and if things do not smooth out and you would like additional help! I do believe you could benefit from one of our Sleep Consultation packages, where we will work with you on a detailed plan that you can commit to and feel good about.
      You can read about all of our sleep consultation packages here: https://www.babysleepsite.com/services
      Good luck Gladys and please contact us if you have any questions!

  9. Katie says

    Hi! My almost 8 month old had RSV at 7 months, which lasted 2 weeks. On top of that he got 5 teeth in the last month. Before he got sick he was consistently sleeping 10-12 hours a night, and periodically waking at 3 or 4 am for a feeding. His older brother has been an excellent sleeper since 8 weeks sleeping 12 hours and never waking, so I was spoiled! So I’m at a loss right now. I’m working full time so trying to get him back on track. He was consistently waking 2 times a night, but now I think I’ve got him down to just once. How do I get him back to sleeping through the night again? He also shares a room with his two year old brother. When he wakes he doesn’t usually cry, but sucks thumb hard and makes loud noises. When I do go get him he’ll start trying to eat right away, does he really need to be eating or is he just used to it at this point?

    • Janelle Reid says

      Hi @Katie, thanks for writing to us. I’m glad your son is over RSV and is doing better now. I had a very similar situation to you with a perfect angel baby older boy, and then my second son gave me some more trouble after a long stretch of being super great like his big brother. (What is with the 2nd boy? 😉 ) Some babies do need one feeding a night through 9 months, or may even a year. (12 months was the case for my second no matter how hard I tried.) I’m sure that’s not the answer you were hoping for, but you may hold off trying to wean him from that night feeding for another month or so, then try again. Hopefully he will go back to his old habits soon but he may just need a little top off with all the teething and growing, also likely extra movement and energy he’s exerting through the day. I hope things pass quickly!

  10. Jodie says

    Hi there,, my 8 1/2 month old has never slept through,, at around 4-6 months she was only waking up twice for a bottle and would sleep maybe 6 hours before waking. She would cat nap through the day and have 4 1/2hr or 45 min naps in a day.
    But now she is waking several times during the night and having 2 full bottles of 180-200mls each time, she is very unsettled, sometimes she can put herself back to sleep but mostly I’m going in to her room and resettling her.
    Would this be the sleep regression, I’m lost and need advice, I hear of all these babies sleeping through the night and I’ve never experienced that.

    • Janelle Reid says

      Hi @Jodie, I’m so sorry to hear you’ve been struggling with your daughter’s night time sleep. I know it’s especially hard as a mom to not compared everything to other parents and babies (that is one of my biggest struggles as a mom!) but try not to be discouraged just because other kids are doing it. At 8 1/2 months old many babies can sleep through the night, while others need 1 feeding at night through a year. We have a free guide available to help provide tips to get your baby sleeping through the night (or with the appropriate amount of night wakings) that you can download here: https://www.babysleepsite.com/sleep-through-night-free-ebook/
      It will help you learn how to troubleshoot those wake ups. If you need more specific advise than the article provides, I’d suggest working with one of our incredible sleep consultants and they can give you specific advise for your baby and situation and will provide as much support as you need. To see the different options available please visit here: https://www.babysleepsite.com/baby-toddler-sleep-consulting-services/
      or contact us directly at [email protected] at anytime and we will help you pick out the package that’s best for you. Hang in there! I hope this helps.