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Exhausted and Confused?   Yes! I need help and more sleep.
Exhausted and Confused?   Yes! I need help and more sleep.
Exhausted and Confused?   Yes! I need help and more sleep.

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  1. Kathryn Nolan says

    My baby is 9 months and 1 week old. She has been teething since she was around 4 months old and has 7 teeth. She is bottle fed and always naps twice throughout the day. Her first nap is usually two hours after she wakes up ( around 1230 pm) and then again about 3 1/2 hours later like (330pm, 4 pm). She is falling asleep anywhere from 8-9pm and waking up an hour later completely energized, or fighting to go back to sleep. For the past 2 weeks or so she has been waking back up around 9 pm and staying up until 11pm-12am. Then she goes to sleep for 3 hours and wakes up crying with her eyes closed completely. After a bottle, she falls asleep usually, then she is back up between 5-6 a.m. crying again with her eyes closed. After a 2 oz. bottle she falls back to sleep, sometimes until 8 a.m., sometimes until 10 a.m. allowing her to sleep beside me keeps her asleep. placing her in her crib makes her wake right back up- her usual wake up time is around 10 a.m. because of her late bedtime – I am not sure if this is her new routine or if this is sleep regression – but I am exhausted – Is she just over stimulated ? please help because staying up until midnight is terrifying me

    • Danielle says

      Hi Kathryn,
      Thank you for writing to us! I’m sorry to hear you’re struggling *so* much with your daughter’s sleep. I’m not a sleep consultant and can’t tell you exactly what’s going on, but the pattern you’re describing does not fit the usual 9 month sleep regression. It’s more likely to be something else going on, like a sleep association or a scheduling issue. I’d highly encourage you to check out a consultation package so you can get some help from a sleep consultant – she can take a history, break down what’s going on, and give you a plan to get sleep back on track. You shouldn’t have to be this exhausted and stressed :/ Please hang in there!

  2. sunitha.B.k. says

    My 9 and 1/2 month baby had a sleep regression. In the night time he did not sleep properly , he wants to play for the whole night.,what should i do????

    • Debbye @ The Baby Sleep Site says

      Hi there Sunitha! Thanks for writing to us! I’m so sorry that your baby is having a tough time with sleep and with a sleep regression! We know how rough this is, so hang in there! As you read in this article, this age can be a tough time for sleep! For Do-it-mostly yourself help that you can start right away, I would recommend that you consider our e-Book, The 3 Step System to Help Your Baby Sleep.
      This is the most popular e-Book on our site. Written specifically for parents whose babies are up to 12 months of age, this book is designed to give you the information you need to get your baby sleeping soundly.
      Plus, depending on which e-Book package you purchase, you will have access to supplemental materials as well, designed to maximize your chances of success. These include audio recordings, tele-seminars, case studies, workbooks, and more.
      You can find and order the book directly online here:
      https://www.babysleepsite.com/3-step-system/
      Please hang in there Sunitha, and let us know if you have any questions!! : )

  3. Cher says

    My 8 month old has never had issues with sleeping. She’s been sleeping through the night (11-12 hours) since she was 4 months. Now she’s been waking up in the early mornings (anywhere between 3am to 5 am) fussy and wanting to nurse. Once she’s fed she can go back to sleep on her own. I’m not sure if this is just a sleep regression or if she’s not getting enough food before bed (she’s on solids but only eats a few spoonfuls then refuses food). I’m really hoping that is only a phase!

    • Danielle says

      Hi Cher,
      Thanks for checking out The Baby Sleep Site! I’m sorry to hear you’re seeing this early waking from your baby. It does sound like she’s really hungry, so she may be going through a growth spurt, or you may need to adjust your current feeding schedule for her. We have a sample 8 month-old schedule here with some info on average eating at this age: https://www.babysleepsite.com/schedules/8-month-old-baby-schedule/
      I hope this helps!

  4. Anne Margareth Gosyne says

    Hi. My 10 month old is sleep trained at night and has been pretty good w it since we started sleep training at 8months. However she still refuses to sleep in her crib during the day time and will refuse to nap. I’ve continued to co sleep and feed to sleep as a result during nap time. Since sleep training she has either nap once a day or no nap. And the past 2 nights have been waking up more than usual…usual is 1 to 2 waking. I do see an 8th tooth popping out so maybe that’s why I’m not sure. But I would love some advice about nap training.

  5. Brandie says

    My 10 month old baby girl has been sleep trained since 3 1/2 months old & starting this when she was only 8 weeks old. She likes the structure & there is a sequence to nap-time & bedtime that she likes & is aware. We went through the 4 & 6 sleep regression & she went back to normal sleep times just by us staying persistent & patient. Now at 10 months, I am completely worn out. I’ve done all & every suggestion & nothing has really worked. It’s hit & miss most days. She use to take two naps. Morning at 9:00 for an hour then afternoon at 1:00 for two hours. Now she fights naps or doesn’t even nap at all, then becomes irritated & fussy because she’s overtired. I don’t leave the house because I’m not sure if she’ll finally nap & I’m afraid to miss that window because then forget it! Although she does sleep soundly eleven hours through the night. What do I need to do to get her to nap again??

  6. Amanda says

    My 8 month old who self settles at naps and bedtime is waking overnight crying multiple times to which I’ve been feeding him. This has been going on for a few weeks so I think he’s waking out of habit now. The last 2 nights when he wakes before midnight, I’ve been going in reassuring him to go back to sleep every 5,10,15 mins etc but it’s taken over an hour of crying both nights for him to fall asleep. If he wakes again but it’s after midnight, should I do the same or can I feed him? I’m just not sure what the right thing to do is? I know after 6 months overnight feeds are not required and he’s in the 95 percentile so I really don’t think he needs it! Help!

    • Danielle says

      Hi Amanda,
      Thank you for using The Baby Sleep Site as a resource. I’m so sorry to hear you’re struggling with all of these overnight wakings – it sounds exhausting 🙁 Although many babies can sleep through the night at 8 months, a decent portion do still need at least one feed. We would have to know more about your baby’s current sleep/feed schedule and bedtime routine to have a better idea of why he’s waking so often. If you’re still having trouble, please do email us at [email protected] so we can get you more resources! Hang in there!

  7. Brittany says

    Hi,

    My now 10 month old is going through this sleep regression. He has never had any issues with sleeping. He’s always In bed and sleep at 730. For the pass two weeks I can’t get him to go to sleep at his normal bedtime to save my life. It’s always 8/830 9/930 sometimes later. He gets a good bath dinner and all before bed. He normally lays in my bed falls asleep and I would transition him to his bed. He still does his two naps a day some days just one. Please help. What am I doing wrong? This phase is taking a lot out of me.

    • Danielle says

      Hi Brittany,
      Thank you for using The Baby Sleep Site as a resource! I’m so sorry to hear you’re struggling with the 10 month sleep regression – it can definitely be a tough one! If your baby’s been having bedtime trouble for a week or two, it’s likely that you’re not doing anything “wrong,” and he will work through it on his own. If it’s been more than a couple of weeks, then you may have a scheduling issue or something else getting in the way of bedtime. We have a sample 10 month-old schedule here that you can check against your own at home: https://www.babysleepsite.com/schedules/10-month-old-schedule/
      Or consider whether a sleep association or other issue might be causing trouble.
      I hope this helps, but please let us know if you have questions!

  8. Sarah says

    My son turned 9 months old today. Up until a little over 2 weeks ago he slept with me in my bed. He would wake up a couple times and breastfeed back to sleep. Since he starts daycare soon I decided it’s time to sleep train, but I am not comfortable with cry it out. So I decided that he’s going to sleep in his crib. The first day or two were tough but it got better fast. I feed then rock him to sleep at 8-8:30 and when I lay him down he wakes up for a minute then falls back to sleep with no fuss. If he wakes up before a 4 hour sleep I just pat his back until he falls back to sleep. If it’s been more then 4 hours I will give him another feed. After the first week he was doing great. He would sleep 8pm-7am and only wake up for about 2 feeds. He’s been transitioning from 3 to 2 naps a day but still about 2 hours of nap sleep…. But the last 3 days he’s been up every hour or two throughout the night. He screams bloody murder when I lay him down to pat his back. Sometimes it takes an hour of me laying him down, giving him some back pats and leaving the room for 5-10mins while he cries. I’ve also been giving in and feeding him more often to get him to go back to sleep. I’ve even let him cuddle in bed with me for a few naps (more for me then for him-I miss our sleep cuddles!) I’m not sure what the trigger was for the bad sleep or maybe I’m just unteaching him everything I just worked so hard to teach him. I’m a single mom so needless to say I haven’t gotten much sleep.

    • Debbye @ The Baby Sleep Site says

      Hi @Sarah – Thanks for writing, and I’m so sorry to hear that your son’s transition to his crib is not going as smoothly as it did at first! I bet you’re exhausted, especially without help at night, so hang in there! Needing more time to adjust, and regressing a bit is normal – so don’t give up! Napping with him should not upset the night sleep, so feel free to continue to have those nap cuddles while you still work on night sleep! If things do not smooth out, please consider getting a little help from one of our sleep consultants here! Please contact us at any time for more information! Hang in there Sarah!

  9. Katie Chambers says

    So what do you do if the sleep regression affects the naps and not bedtime? With my daughter, it affected bedtime. It was fine that she woke up more than she used to. I knew it was a phase and it wouldn’t last, so I didn’t treat it any different.

    But with my eight-month-old son, both naps (one is usually 1.5 – 2.5 hours and the other is usually 1 – 1.5 hours) are only 40 minutes long. Since I work during his nap time, this is driving me crazy, especially since he is overtired during the day so not as good at playing with toys while I work. Essentially, I am WAY behind on work now. 😀

    I know it is a phase, but is there something I can do to help him through it? I don’t want to create any bad habits for a short phase, but do I just wait it or and wait until his naps go back to being longer or can I do something about it?

    • Neosha says

      @Katie – Thank you for sharing with us! We know exactly how you feel as we all are in the same boat of working around our kiddos’ schedules! We definitely love your philosophy of not creating a habit for a short-term phase. If the regression is impacting his naps to such a degree, you may want to consider also tweaking his overall sleep schedule so he has as much opportunity to sleep as needed. You should also know that many 8-9 month old babies need 2-3 hours of nap sleep each day so being sure to ask him to sleep when he’s tired enough to sleep is a good strategy as well. If you find you need more support, don’t hesitate to reach out to one of our sleep consultants who can walk you all through getting back on track. Hang in there, Katie!

  10. Sami V. says

    My now toddler definitely had this regression around 9 months and tied with a bunch of other issues lasted so long! Long story shorter, I had helped him develop bad sleep habits so after moving him to him room adjustment time and teething pain over time, I tried a sleep training method a friend recommended. A mix of crying with checks, and we saw good success within a week! Baby was going to sleep by himself, without crying, sleeping longer stretches, and even going back to sleep after 6am wake up! Then we traveled, then he got sick, then this regression. The worst part was when he figured out how to pull himself up to standing at his crib, but he couldn’t get down. That was the longest and worst week of sleep ever. I couldn’t just leave him stuck there, I thought of him like a mountain climber clinging to the edge! So while before there was a little time waiting to see if he would settle back down, this time it was immediate standing and immediate screaming. Once he figured out how to get down, and I was sure he could do it confidently, I increased the time he would cry before I checked on him to 10 mins and it only took a day or two for him to settle with no crying and back to longer stretches of sleep! Not looking forward to 18 month regression! We’ve survived transition to one nap and confident in my sleep training routine. Thanks for all the helpful articles!

    • Janelle Reid says

      Hi @Sami V. I’m so glad you’ve been able to overcome these sleep obstacles and you feel confident to tackle what comes your way next!