Exhausted and Confused?   Yes! I need help and more sleep.
Exhausted and Confused?   Yes! I need help and more sleep.
Exhausted and Confused?   Yes! I need help and more sleep.

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  1. Ashely says

    My son is 4 months and one week old. He has been catnapping during the day for at least 6 weeks now. He wakes up at 28-35mins after we put him down and if we go in before he wakes up, sometimes we could put him back down but not alway. If we successfully put him back down we would still have to stay there for another 30-50 mins in case any stirring. His bed time is between 6-7:30pm, depends on the day. And he usually wakes up 2-3.5 hours after and we’d try to put him back down without feeding. But sometimes it’s ready hard and we end up feeding him….then he wakes up every 3 hours for the night feeds…most of the days he drinks more at night than during the day. At this point he is pretty good at falling asleep on his own after nap routine and bedtime routine. The issues bother us a lot is his catnap and night wakings/feedings. Can you give us some suggestions?

    Thank you!!

    • Debbye @ The Baby Sleep Site says

      Hi @Ashely –
      Thank you for writing to us! Sorry to hear that your 4 month old baby is not sleeping well! We definitely understand, and are here to help! While short naps are still common at this age, it’s a good time to start working on helping your little guy fall back to sleep independently when he wakes! This article can help:
      Night feeds, many wakings, and short naps can be so tough, and you’re not alone! We’d love to help you with this! A great place to start is our VIP Members Area, which has TONS of expert advice and help! You can read more here:
      And please contact us if you would like more info about any of our offerings, and hang in there!

  2. Paul says

    My 4 month old wakes at 7/7.30 for a bottle feed then goes back down around 8.15 for another hour. He is fed every 4 hours or so until his last feed around 10/10.30. He doesn’t wake for a night feed. He is currently napping for 2 hrs in the afternoon, which I believe can be a growth spurt or teething (I think its both in his case) with some 20 minute naps at other times of the the day. Would like to get him down around 9 and still not have a night feed.

    • Danielle says

      Hi Paul,
      Thanks for writing! It sounds like your son is sleeping about average for his age. Most formula-fed babies are not able to go a 12 hour night without feeding until at least 7 months, as they are just not big enough to stay full for long. We have a baby night feedings by age chart to give you a sense of what to expect here:
      Hope that helps!

  3. Jenn says

    The article on the 4 month sleep regression which also linked to the 4 month schedule was INCREDIBLY helpful! I was encouraged but also surprised that you all listed wind down around 5:45p, bedtime routine ~6pm and down for the shortly after. I think our nighttime stressors have been stemming from too late bedtime (8:00p) plus some early signs of the 4 m sleep regression…. don’t want it to stick around!

    • Danielle says

      Hi Jenn,
      Thank you for checking out The Baby Sleep Site! I’m so glad to hear that you found the 4-month sample schedule helpful! Bedtime this age can be anywhere between 6 and 8, depending on when baby is waking up from that last nap, but generally, earlier is better 🙂 Please let us know if you ever have further questions!

  4. kaya rajan says

    My 4 months only has 20 mins naps during the day, usually 1hr after her feeding. She goes to bed at 8:30pm and wakes up at 6:30. She does not wake up for feeds is this ok?.

    • Debbye @ The Baby Sleep Site says

      Hi @Kaya – Thanks for writing to us about your 4 month old! You may want to ask your pediatrician about her sleeping all night. The doctor can tell you if her growth and development are on track and if she may need a night feed. Babies are all different and sleep through with no feeds at different times, and it’ll be best to get your doctor’s recommendations on this. Regarding those short naps = short naps are common at this age! Check out this article for some tips and help:
      Good luck Kaya!

  5. Megan says

    My son is 4 and a half months old. He is exclusively breastfed at this point.
    His sleep schedule is actually pretty great.
    Wakes at 7:30 am
    Naps at 9am for 45mins
    Naps at 11am for 2 1/2 hours
    Naps at 3pm for 45 mins
    Catnap at 5pm (20mins)
    Bedtime at 7/7:30pm
    During the night he wakes up once to feed (around 2:30am), and sometimes wakes up twice to feed (2:30am and 5:30am).
    The only problem is, is that he will only sleep on me for naps. We co-sleep at night time and that is not an issue for us. But having him sleep on me during nap times is starting to become a little exhausting as I have no time to myself/ to get things done around the house. When I try to put him down for a nap he either wakes right away, or wakes after 20 mins.
    Just wonder what steps I can take to getting him to sleep on his own during nap time.

    • Debbye @ The Baby Sleep Site says

      Hi @Megan –
      Thanks for writing and we’re happy to hear that your 4 month old is sleeping pretty well and on a good scheduel that works for all of you! It sounds like you’re ready to start teaching him to nap on his own, and we get it! Holding a baby for every nap can be so tough, and definitely makes it way too hard to get anything else done!
      This article should help with some great tips:
      You may want to consider our eBook: Mastering Naps and Schedules. This eBook includes over 45 sample daytime nap and feeding schedules, as well as pages and pages on how to lengthen and extend short naps. This book is perfect for helping you teach your child healthy napping habits now and into toddlerhood.
      You can read about this here:
      Good luck and hang in there Megan!

    • Claudia says

      Hi, I would like to how I transition my 4 month old from the 3 month schedule that has a 9pm bedtime to the 4 month schedule that has a 6:15 bedtime. Right now he wakes at 8am and has 3-4 naps totalling in 4-5 hrs during the day. He goes to bed at 9pm and wakes up twice for feeding. Total sleep 14-15 hrs.

      • Neosha says

        @Claudia – Thank you for reading! Please let us know if we can be of any help as you work on adjusting your little guy’s bedtime. This is something we regularly help families through. Hang in there!