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Exhausted and Confused?   Yes! I need help and more sleep.
Exhausted and Confused?   Yes! I need help and more sleep.
Exhausted and Confused?   Yes! I need help and more sleep.

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  1. Leah Briggs says

    Hi, I have a 6.5 month old who has been taking 4-5 30 minute naps a day (usually 4). She wakes up happy yet tired but will not go back to sleep. It’s been exhausting to me because I can’t get anything done in 30 minutes! She sleeps for 11 hours all night, she always puts herself to sleep, and she stays awake between naps for 2-2.5 hours. I’ve tried keeping her up for 3 hours and she still sleeps 30 minutes but looks much more tired after waking. What do I do? Should I try only doing 2 or 3 naps but keeping her up much longer? Or just leave it alone and let her drop them when she wants to?

    • Janelle Reid says

      Hi @Leah Briggs, I’m so sorry to hear you’re struggling with so many cat naps from your daughter these days. That is super common when they are really little, and there are things you can do now to help her consolidate those naps and get on better schedule. Here is a link to a free guide with tips for nap help: https://www.babysleepsite.com/free-baby-nap-guide/
      If you need more help you may want to check out our ebook Mastering Naps and Schedules which has tons of sample schedules and tips on how to improve your baby’s daytime sleep. You can read more about the ebook and purchase directly from our site here: https://www.babysleepsite.com/mastering-naps/
      Let us know how it turns out and if you need any more help!

  2. Lisa says

    This is the first thing I have read that has made me feel ok about my 6 month old taking 4 naps. Every other sleep consultant makes it seem that if you put them down at the right times they will magically lengthen naps. I think it has happened a handful of times for me with absolutely no consistency. I drive myself crazy trying to keep him up for longer to put him down at the magical time and I am done. The catnaps are exhausting, but at least they are predictable!

    • Neosha says

      @Lisa – Thank you for reading and for sharing with us! We are so glad to be a resource for you – as you keep reading, you’ll find that we’re (happily!) quite different from many other sleep consultants out there. Here you’ll find no judgment or bias – just support and encouragement. Please keep reading and thank you, again, for reading!

  3. Chelsea Johns says

    My daughter is 5.5 months old and takes 4-5 30 minute naps daily to the minute! She will occasionally take a long first nap, but it’s a rare treat. She will sometimes awake once at night, but often sleeps from 7:30-6:00 am without waking. She recently has learned to self-soothe to sleep, but cannot seem to stay asleep longer than 30 minutes. I’ve tried letting her lie in bed to see if she’ll resettle, but never does. She often awakes grumpy due because she’s still tired. I’ve tried both putting her down earlier or later with no change. At this point, I’m desperate to help her feel more rested and less cranky! Any tips you have would be much appreciated.

    • Janelle Reid says

      @Chelsea Johns, Thank you for writing to us! I am glad to hear your daughter is giving you such great stretches at night, but that you are struggling with naps. To encourage you, it is common for this to happen – it happened to me with both of my boys as well so I understand firsthand how frustrating and exhausting (for everyone) it can be, even with great nighttime sleep! You may find her nights start to lengthen out on their own over time, both of my boys got consistent with their naps closer to 9 months, but all babies are different. Here is a link to a sample schedule for a 6 month old you can compare to what you’re doing to make sure it’s similar to rule out that she is not sleeping longer due to overtiredness: https://www.babysleepsite.com/schedules/6-month-old-baby-schedule/
      Here is a link about naps and why naps/nights are different: https://www.babysleepsite.com/baby-naps-2/why-baby-and-naps-different-than-night-sleep/
      Lastly, here is an article explaining short naps: https://www.babysleepsite.com/baby-naps-2/short-baby-naps-explained/
      Hang in there while you wait for this to pass! I hope this helps, but let us know if you need anything else!

  4. Paulina says

    Hello! I love this site!! You’ve always been so helpful !!
    My 6 and a half month old baby boy knows how to go to sleep on his own since 3 months old with his paci and a lovey. Sometimes I even watch him waking up at naps and he goes back to sleep on his own. He’s also always been a 30 minute naper and usually wakes up only 2 times at night (one to feed, the other I just offer the paci).
    He’s normally awake for 1.5 max 2 hours and then a short nap.
    But… he’s recently refusing 2 out of 3 naps or the 3 of them. He’s awake for 3 hours or more. He’s overtired and waking more at night. He cries non stop when I put him in his crib for a nap, NOT at night. Nothing soothes him, not rocking, paci, lovey, hugs, my voice, sssh, nothing ! I have to take him out of the room and then he calms down but cries again within minutes cause of overtiredness. He already has 2 teeth. Could it be separation anxiety? How can I help him??? ?
    Thank you always!!!!

    • Janelle Reid says

      @Paulina, Thank you for your comment! I am so glad the site has been so helpful to you, but I am so sorry your little guy has been struggling with his naps lately! If your son is going through any developmental milestone (learning to roll, sit up, etc) this also may present a set of challenges with his sleep. Here is another article outlining a few other reasons your baby may not be napping: https://www.babysleepsite.com/baby-naps-2/baby-wont-nap-5-reasons/
      It also could be separation anxiety as you already mentioned as this begins to show up around 7 or 8 months which you are practically there. Here is an article with more help on how to deal: https://www.babysleepsite.com/sleep-training/baby-toddler-sleep-separation-anxiety/
      I hope his sleep levels back out for you again soon! Thank you for using the Baby Sleep Site as a resource for sleep!

  5. Lauren says

    My daughter will be 6 months in 3 days but she will only take two naps a day. They are both 2 hours long so she is getting 4 hours worth of naps. Then she sleeps from 6:30pm to 6:00 am with no wake ups. Of course there are days when she will take three. Especially if her morning nap was shorter.

    • Janelle Reid says

      @Lauren, Thank you for you comment, and I apologize for the delay in getting back to you! That is wonderful your daughter is taking such great naps and sleeping such long stretches at night! It sounds like she has adjusted to a schedule really well and that you’re doing a great job determining when to offer that third nap on days when things weren’t as smooth. 🙂 Thank you for stopping by and using the Baby Sleep Site as a resource for sleep!

  6. Debbye says

    Hi Sara,
    Short naps are very common, they especially creep up around the 4 month mark. They may lengthen without your help, but if you do want to help a bit, try some nap training. Try going in right when your baby (or babies) begins to wake and try shush/patting back to sleep.
    I would continue to offer the 4th nap if bedtime is getting too early. They may not take it everyday, but I would not drop it entirely until they skip the 4th nap everyday for at least one week straight.
    Best of luck!!!

  7. sara says

    I am having trouble getting me 8 month old twin daughters to nap longer than 30 minutes. Since about 4 months old, their naps have become super short, from 30 minutes to an hour at the longest and I was putting them down for 4 catnaps a day until about 7 months old because they would be so tired. I bumped their bedtime up earlier to make up for the lost sleep during the day but it usually results in an earlier wake time and earlier naps, which still are about 30 minutes on the dot, now 3 times a day, as they are resisting the 4th nap.

    I’m wondering if I should add the 4th catnap back in or just continue to bump the bedtime up. I’ve spoken to many other mothers who claim their child took 30 minute naps until they were crawling and walking and more tired. I’m not sure my girls will ever sleep longer because I’ve tried everything; shorter wake times, longer wake times, separate bedrooms for naps, back in the same bedroom for naps; keeping them in their cribs up to an hour even after they wake after 30 minutes, and so on and they still sleep for 30 minutes only. They wake up still tired so I’m assuming we have a self soothing issue on our hands. They use pacifiers because they have bad reflux and the sucking helped with that.

    I’m wondering if I should just deal with these short naps and wait it out to see if they lengthen on their own once they crawl/walk/etc or am I missing something very obvious here? It seems like most other babies in this age range take at least 2 longer naps a day. It’s exhausting but I worry about their sleep needs far more than my own!! I can drink coffee, they can’t!!

    Thanks for any help anyone can offer.

  8. Kelley says

    My son is just now getting better at napping at daycare. He takes two naps a day and they are anywhere from 40 minutes to an hour. Every once in a while we’ll get lucky and he’ll sleep for 2 hours and they will actually have to wake him up. He’s just starting on solids and hasn’t taken to it very quickly but it’s getting better. He’s been sleeping pretty good at night but the past few weeks he’s been waking up at 3:00 am and WILL NOT go back to sleep unless I put him in bed with me. I don’t want to make this a habit but right now I’m a “single parent” (my husband is deployed) so I have to let him sleep so I can get ready for work. I know he’s teething and he hasn’t been feeling well but I’m really concerned that he’s going to start to expect to be put in bed with me. I’ll usually try for about an hour to get him back to sleep in his crib with no luck. Any thoughts or advice?

    • Kimberly says

      @Kelley,
      The teething and not feeling well could definitely be contributing to his wake ups. However, while I can completely understand bringing him to bed so everyone can get back to sleep, it may, in the long run become a bigger problem for you. Have you tried giving him a bit of Motrin or ibuprofen before bed to see if that helps? Also, he could be going through a growth spurt. Does he eat at during the night at some point? If not, a short feed might assist with this 3 am wake up and getting him back to sleep. (Just don’t let him “fall asleep” while feeding and instead, feed just until drowsy then lay him back down.

      @Blaine- You might try going in right when she begins to wake and try shush/patting her back to sleep. Or laying her back down and then leaving the room to see if she resettle after 10-15 mins and go back to sleep. If she’s sleeping well at night and with three 45 minute naps per day, then as long as she’s generally happy and doesn’t seem overly tired, I wouldn’t worry too much but it’s certainly worth a try to see if you can help her learn to extend her naps.

  9. Blaine says

    I cannot get my 6mo old to take a nap longer than 30-45min 3 times a day. I have tried to make naptime as relaxing as I possibly can but nothing works. She is on a good schedule, sleeps 12hrs at night, only waking 1 or 2 times for a feeding. How can I help my baby to extend naptime and turn it into 2 longer naps throughout the day?

  10. Kelley says

    Thank you so much for posting this! I kept stressing that my little boy at 5 months wasn’t taking enough naps. He takes two naps a day averaging 1 1/2-2 hours each (we usually wake him at 2 hours) and I wasn’t sure if that was enough for him. He is sleeping just fine at night and doesn’t seem to be overtired so I’m assuming he’s just one of the few that doesn’t need that 3rd cat nap. I used to give him a nap at around 4:30 and he would sleep for about 30 minutes but then it started to be difficult and take longer to get him to sleep for that 30 minutes than he was actually sleeping so I just stopped trying and he doesn’t seem to need it anymore. We did adjust his betime though so he is asleep by 6:00 (6:15 at the VERY latest). I’m a first time mom and my husband is deployed so I feel like I have no clue what I’m doing! ha ha! I’ve decided to just follow my little guy’s lead and as soon as I see him yawning or rubbing his eyes then we start his bath and get him to bed. Seems to be working great! Although, I jinxed myself the other day and he woke up 3 times at night to “play.” Little stinker just layed in there and talked to himself all night. 🙂 My next hurdle (which I will take any advice) is getting him to sleep in his crib instead of his bouncy seat. He has acid reflux so he doesn’t do well laying flat. I’ve tried the wedge under the mattress but he moves around so much that it’s pointless. I’m scared to try to have him sleep in his crib since he’s sleeping so well now. I think I’m just going to have to try to have him nap in his crib and then move to nights but I’m afraid I’ll screw up the schedule that I just FINALLY got to work for him!