Exhausted and Confused?   Yes! I need help and more sleep.
Exhausted and Confused?   Yes! I need help and more sleep.
Exhausted and Confused?   Yes! I need help and more sleep.

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  1. Julie says

    My 3.5 month old was sleeping amazingly…until 3 weeks ago. He was sleeping 9 hours at night, without a swaddle, and falling asleep with his pacifier but self soothing with his hand once it fell out.
    For the past 3 weeks, he’s been going down to sleep without a problem (normal routine: diaper change, put on PJs, story/song, bottle of pumped milk, burp, into basinette). Then, around 2 am he’s up fussing (picking up and throwing down his legs, making noises but not really crying, and cannot settle), pulling out his pacifier but no longer self soothing with his hands, and this can last hours. I’ve tried nursing him and he’ll fall asleep but as soon as I put him in the basinette, he’s back to fussing again. So I don’t think he’s hungry. After hours, he’ll fall asleep on my chest and then I can successfully transfer him back to the basinette. The only thing of note is that sometimes he passes gas, but that doesn’t seem to settle him either.
    I know this is probably a normal sleep regression. I know some people say it can last up to 6 weeks. But I simply cannot get him to settle in the middle of the night. Any advice would be completely appreciated!

    • Debbye @ The Baby Sleep Site says

      Hi @Julie –
      Thanks for writing to us about your (almost) 4 month old! It sure sounds like the 4 month regression is going on over there, and yes, many do not outgrow this for weeks, months, or even years! For help through this, feel free to use the tips on this page, and I’d also recommend taking a look at this schedule and making sure that naps and bedtime are at good times for him:
      I hope that things smooth out soon Julie! If you need more help, please contact us for more information!

  2. Sarah says

    Hi there,

    My 14week old baby used to sleep all the way through till 6/7am but the last week or so she has been waking at 2am and 4am. I do her feed at 7pm and I change her nappy then half sleep feed her at 10pm. When she wakes during the night I do not feed her I just try settle with dummy as I know she’s not hungry (tried feeding the first 2x but she would just fall asleep in my arms)
    So I think it’s like you say she can’t settle herself at night 🙁

    • Danielle says

      Hi Sarah,
      Thank you for your comment! I’m sorry to hear that your 3.5 month-old is going through the 4 month sleep regression! It is definitely a tough time, so please hang in there. If your baby is overall healthy and once she is 4 months-old, we do recommend doing some gentle sleep coaching to help her start to learn to sleep independently, and re-settle herself when she’s not hungry but is waking at night. I’d recommend checking out our sleep training series, which takes you step-by-step on how to set up for sleep coaching, select a good method for your family and baby, and make a plan. The first article in that series is here:

      We do also offer the DIY Express Sleep Plan or the personalized consultations with a baby sleep expert if you need more support through the process:

      I hope this helps! Please let us know if you have any questions!

  3. Samira says


    I have a 3 month old baby. She wakes up evey two hours in average for feeding sometimes 1.5 hour and sometimes 2.5 hour. I breast feed her and she takes one breast only for 3-5 min each time. I dont have enough milk supply so sometimes I formula feed her ( she used to have (50-60 ml every two hours and now it is 90-120 ml every two hours)
    She has statred missing day naps or having very short naps (30- 45 min) which is frustrating and I cannot do anything during the day!
    She wakes 4 times every night which is killing me and I feel I have aged 10 years in this 3 month?.
    She recently refuses to take my breast during the day and I have to pump. She takes it at night only when she is super skeepy otherwise she wont take it!

    I saw your 3 month old feeding schedual which shiws feedings every 2-2.5 hour. I thought babies should be fed every 4 hour at this age!

    Please help me???

    • Neosha says

      @Samira – Thank you for reading and for sharing with us. Feeding young babies can be quite exhausting and confusing! Though babies your daughter’s age aren’t feeding quite as frequently as she did even 6 weeks ago, their tummies are still quite small and require frequent fill-ups. Your baby’s healthcare provider can help you understand best how often/much you should expect your little girl to eat as he/she will take into account all of your daughter’s health needs when making a suggestion. Please consider double checking with him/her, Samira. Hang in there!