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Exhausted and Confused?   Yes! I need help and more sleep.
Exhausted and Confused?   Yes! I need help and more sleep.
Exhausted and Confused?   Yes! I need help and more sleep.

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  1. Nicky says

    Hi there,

    I would like some advice. My little one (21 months) was always a good sleeper (but a very early riser) give or take development spurts etc. However the last few months alongside the very early wake ups (between 5-6) he’s been waking often in the night so we give him milk as it usually helps him fall back asleep. Sometimes he also wants to get up so we play quietly in our room for 20mins reading etc and then put him back to his cot in his room and he sleeps again.

    I know that’s not ideal of course so the last week I’ve explained that it’s night time, everyone is sleeping etc and give him some toys to play with in his cot. It’s getting a bit better but he still cries and protests and still wakes up very early. He has 1 nap a day (1.5-2hrs) and bedtime routine starts between 5.30-6pm. We can’t really move it later as he’s hypermobile and really tired by then and falls asleep between 6.30-7.15ish. Any advice appreciated!

    • Janelle Reid says

      Hi @Nicky, thanks for writing to us! I am sorry to hear you’ve been struggling with your son’s night wakings. Here is a link to a free guide with tips on toddler sleep, as their independence develops and makes things different from infancy: https://www.babysleepsite.com/toddler-sleep-tips
      Our sleep consultants can also look at a full sleep history for him and help create a schedule that will work for the whole family, and help you push through this time of night waking he’s in. Here is a link to work one-on-one with them where they can help you troubleshoot this: https://www.babysleepsite.com/baby-toddler-sleep-consulting-services/
      If you have any other questions, let us know! You can contact us directly anytime at [email protected]
      Hang in there!

  2. Paulina says

    Hi!! My 13 month old sleeps from 7:30 to 7 am, two naps, but recently something is changing (not routine). He’s now taking first nap until about 11:30 or 12 pm (a few weeks ago he used to have first nap at 10 and second 1:30). That makes second nap at 3:30 or even 4:30 and I have to wake him up after 20 minutes or so, so he goes peacefully to Sleep at 7:30 pm. What can I do? I don’t think is a good idea to keep waking him up from second nap …if I put him to sleep earlier than 12 or 3:30 pm he just stays in crib playing or crawling for an hour but won’t fall asleep.

    • Danielle says

      Hi Paulina,
      Thank you for using The Baby Sleep Site as a resource! I’m sorry to hear you’re having some napping trouble. If this is pretty recent, you may just be going through the 12 month sleep regression. Some babies try to “drop” the nap for a couple of weeks while going through a mental or physical leap, and then pick up the nap again. We have an article on it here: https://www.babysleepsite.com/baby-naps-2/12-month-olds-one-nap-transition/
      Usually we recommend to just stick the course with the schedule until the regression ends – it’s usually only about two weeks. If you continue having trouble afterwards, you may be dealing with something else, like a scheduling issue.
      I hope this helps! Please get it touch if we can be of further help!

  3. Chelsea says

    My 20 month old has been taking an hour to sometimes two hours to fall asleep at night. Should I adjust her nap to later or her bedtime?

    7am- wake
    7:30/8am- breakfast
    9am- snack
    11am- lunch
    12:15pm- naps till 2 (I sometimes have to wake her from her nap because she won’t fall asleep at bedtime if she sleeps any later than 2)
    2:30/3pm- snack
    5:30pm- dinner
    6:30pm- start of the bedtime routine
    7:00pm- bedtime but she hasn’t been falling asleep till close to 8pm or later

    • Janelle Reid says

      Hi @Chelsea, thanks for writing to us! I’m sorry your toddler has been taking a while to settle at night. Many toddlers around this age put up a bit of a protest and then when they see things aren’t going to change for them, they comply. So if this has only been happening for a few days or weeks, you may just want to wait it out before you have any changes. If it’s been going on for a while, it’s possible something may need to change. I am part of our Client Relations Team so I don’t know all of the answers like our sleep consultants would, but I’ll gladly point you in the direction of some resources for more information. We have a free guide available for you to download with tips for toddler sleep. If she is testing the limits and bringing that into her sleep, this article has lots of tips (among other things) to help: https://www.babysleepsite.com/toddler-sleep-tips
      We also have a few different ebooks that may help – one on Mastering Naps & Schedules, and another all about toddler sleep! We also have an ebook about adjusting schedules that is exclusive to Baby Sleep Site Members. To read more about the Members Area where you have access to all of our ebooks and exclusive articles, as well as a weekly chat with one of our expert consultants to ask your questions, check out how to sign up here: https://www.babysleepsite.com/diy/
      The Members Area is an AMAZING resource for parents to get you through all sleep hurdles. I hope some of these resources help and she starts settling quicker soon!

  4. Ruth says

    Hi there,
    My 21month old seems to need very little sleep and keeps waking at 4/5am

    4/5am – wakes
    8.30am – 15min nap
    1am – 1.5-2hr nap
    8pm – bed

    He needs to be walked in his stroller for all naps as he screams if we try to put him in his cot. He is desperate for a nap by 9am so we can not drop the morning nap. And can’t seem to sleep before 12.30/1pm so we can’t move the afternoon nap any earlier.
    We also still need to settle him to sleep at night. We start settling him at 7pm but he doesn’t fall asleep until 8/8.30pm. It’s such a long day – he doesn’t seem tired but we are!! Have you any suggestions as to how to get him to sleep until 6am? (He usually sleeps through the night without waking.) Many thanks, Ruth

    • Janelle Reid says

      Hi @Ruth, thanks for writing to us! I am so sorry to hear your son has been waking so early. Here is an article with some tips to help handle your baby’s early waking: https://www.babysleepsite.com/how-we-sleep/baby-waking-too-early/
      If you find you need more help, let us know. I think working one on one with a sleep consultant would be a huge help and would get your baby sleeping longer stretches and keep you enjoying every moment he is awake. 🙂 If you are interested in working one-on-one with one of our experts, please contact us directly here: https://www.babysleepsite.com/contact and we can point you in the direction of the different resources we have available. Hang in there!

  5. Vanessa says

    Is this sample schedule a by the clock approach? It seems like that wouldn’t be enough wake time between naps. Should they be about 3/3.5/4?

    • Janelle Reid says

      Hi @Vanessa, thanks for writing! The wake time will really depend on your toddler, since it is such a broad age range – some toddlers taking 2 naps, some 1 and other’s transitioning out all together. The schedules we make are samples so definitely feel free to make adjustments where they are needed – and also keep in mind that the schedules are accounting for a 1 hour nap. If your child naps for 2.5 hours, things are likely to change around a bit, especially if they are still on the 2 nap a day schedule. Hope that helps clarify a bit more! 🙂

  6. Julia says

    Hi. I don’t know if you are still answering questions or not. My friends daughters (3 and 4) both don’t sleep well. Are they too old to get an express sleep plan for? My poor friend is exhausted and not quite sure what to do. I loved the sleep plan I got for my 5 month old. She’s been sleeping great since then!! Best regards, Julia

    • Danielle says

      Hi Julia,
      Thank you so much for your comment – I’m thrilled to hear we were able to help you with your daughter’s sleep! I’m sorry to hear that your friend’s children aren’t sleeping well, but we do work with preschoolers all the time and would love to help. In most cases, by that age, a small consultation package is a better fit for the family than an Express Sleep Plan, but if you or your friend would like to email us at [email protected] with a little bit more information about the situation, we’d be happy to recommend a package. Hope to hear from you!

  7. Christina says

    9:00/9:30 – Wake
    9:30/10:00 – Breakfast
    11:30/12:00 – Morning nap (<1 hour)
    1:30 – afternoon snack
    2:30 – Lunch
    4:00- Afternoon nap (<1 hour)
    5:30 – Dinner
    6:45/7:00 – Begin bedtime routine
    7:00/7:30 – Bedtime

    She snacks throughout the day (errands, walks, etc).

    She decided her wake up and bedtime and goes to sleep within minutes at bedtime without any fussing or tears. Should I intervene with her 14 hour sleep at night? First time momma questions

    • Janelle Reid says

      Hi @Christina, thanks for writing to us! Wow, your little one does like her nighttime sleep. 🙂 If you have any concerns about it, I’d mention it to your pediatrician, but she is getting the sleep she needs within a 24 hour period, so unless you want to lengthen those afternoon naps out a bit, you could probably leave it as is. Again your daughter’s daughter will be able to advise a little better than I can since she knows your daughter’s age and development more than I do so I would run it by them as well. Thanks for your comment!

  8. Emily says

    I don’t know if you’re still responding, but here’s our schedule. It’s a little rough around the edges since I can’t completely remember when daycare feeds the kids breakfast and lunch.
    6:30 – Wake up
    7 – Light breakfast at home
    7:45/8 – Breakfast at daycare (he loves food)
    11:30/12pm – Lunch
    12:30 – Nap (no more than 2 hours)
    2ish – Snack
    5ish – Pick up from daycare
    6:30 – Supper
    8 – Bedtime
    He typically goes outside twice at daycare, if the weather is good, but the times vary.

    Our problem is that after he goes to bed, he will wake anywhere between 12 am and 3 am and be awake from 1-3 hours. Sometimes he’s tired, and sometimes he’s absolutely wired. We cut his nap down to two hours a day from 2.5 – 3 hours a day. What are we doing wrong?!

    • Neosha says

      @Emily – Thank you for stopping by our sleepy little village and for sharing with us! Please don’t think you’re doing anything wrong when you seem to just be trying to prioritize your little guy’s rest and get him the sleep he needs! I’m not sure how old your little guy is so there could be a number of different factors that could be causing the night waking that could be developmental depending on his age, environment, nutritional, scheduling or how he falls asleep (independently vs with help). To help some, this article discusses the more common reasons toddlers wake in the night – https://www.babysleepsite.com/toddlers/toddler-night-waking/ I hope it helps, Emily. Hang in there!

  9. Joanna says

    My two year doesn’t nap is 6pm too early for bedtime? He usually wakes up between 6:30/7am. What is a good schedule? He needs a bath after dinner but excites him alot.

    • Danielle says

      Hi Joanna,
      Thanks for reading! I’m so glad to hear your toddler is sleeping well. The average amount of sleep a 2 year-old needs is about 12 hours per 24 hour day, so it sounds like your son is right on track. There is no “perfect” bedtime routine, so finding something that works for your family is the most important thing, but to give you some ideas, we have an article with routine tips here: https://www.babysleepsite.com/sleep-training/bedtime-routine-baby-toddler/
      Keep up the good work!

  10. Shannon Angel says

    My 20 month old schedule:
    6.00am – wake up
    7.30am – breakfast
    11am – lunch
    12.00 – Nap (1-2 hours)
    2.00pm – Light snack
    4.30pm – Dinner
    6.30pm – Start of bedtime routine
    7.00pmpm – Bed

    He use to sleep until 7/7.30am but over the last month it seems to have got earlier and earlier. Are there any adjustments I should be doing??

    • Neosha says

      @Shannon – Thank you for reading and for sharing! As they get older, they do start to require a bit less sleep total. We generally expect to see a 20-month old sleep 12-14 hours per day of total sleep, so if your little guy is anywhere around there, give or take a bit, and seems well-rested, you’re likely okay. Keep up the good work, and please keep reading!