Exhausted and Confused?   Yes! I need help and more sleep.
Exhausted and Confused?   Yes! I need help and more sleep.
Exhausted and Confused?   Yes! I need help and more sleep.

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  1. Holly says

    Hi there, my 6 month old seems to be stuck in a weird pattern and I fear I am only making it worse!! She will generally wake up (I consider it a night waking) at 4am and I will feed her and pop her back down for a sleep again by 445am. She’ll then be awake and ready to start her day under an hour later which is absolutely horrible as it’s usually just as I am falling back to sleep myself! Her day naps seem ‘normal’ with 3 naps spaced out by 2.5 hours of awake time. I’m not sure what to do and this mini nap (one sleep cycle) so early in the morning is not healthy for anyone! Thank you for your help.

    • Debbye @ The Baby Sleep Site says

      Hi @Holly –
      Thanks for writing, and so sorry to hear that your baby is waking up SO early and not going back to sleep for long after that 4am feed! That is so rough! To start, I’d recommend that you check out our free sample schedules for 6 month old babies. This should help with the timing of bedtime and naps, and will hopefully help with that early feed and her not going back to sleep for long! Here’s a link:
      For more help at any time, please consider working with one of our expert sleep consultants – we’d love to help! YOu can contact us at any time with questions or for help getting started! hang in there Holly!

  2. Jacque says

    My 9 month old is waking up around 5:15 every morning, usually with a big poop. Once I change his diaper (turning on minimal lights) and get him a bottle, he’s ready to get up and going. He’s cranky and moody while we’re getting ready for the day, and crashes for an early morning nap if he’s at home. He goes to daycare during the week. They say he’s an angel, but he’ll only take an afternoon nap no matter how hard they try to get him to sleep. Then he’s a little booger before bed too.
    He will sometimes sleep in the mornings as long as I hold him but if I last him in his crib he cries still we give in and get up. We previously discussed cry it out at night and that worked well, but I’m not sure that’s a good morning solution.
    Any suggestions?

    • Janelle Reid says

      HI @Jacque, thank you for writing to us. I’m sorry to hear you are struggling with your 9 month old’s early waking! As you saw in the article often naps do contribute to daytime sleep, so I do wonder if him resisting his morning naps at daycare is contributing to the early wake ups. Here is a link to a free guide with tips to help improve those naps or will give you questions you can ask the daycare to see if the right environment is set (and in reality I know you have little control in this but it may just help give you a better idea of what is happening):
      If the problem persists, I’d suggest considering working with a sleep consultant that can help you create a plan you feel good about and they will try to cater it with your daycare’s schedule and routine as well! Here is a link to read about our options for that if you’re interested: services/
      Hang in there!

  3. Amanda says

    Hi I am unsure what to do about my sons early wakings. I don’t think he wants to start his day, it is more like a night waking around 4:30/5:30. He cries a lot and seems so tired. When he was around 1 we used controlled crying to extend his nights and he would sleep from about 6:00/6:30-4:30/5:30 then I would feed him and he would sleep until around 6:30/7:00.

    We just did a reset for him (now 14 month old) to get him to sleep longer at night after being sick and travelling (waking 2-4x with feeding) He goes down around 6:30 and his night wakings have basically gone away. However, he has still been waking around 4:30-5:30 crying and not returning to sleep. We have been leaving him until 6:00 where I then go in a feed him. Sometimes we start our day at 6:00 but if he seems super tired and has been crying for 1.5hr I am putting him back down where he sleeps until 7/8.

    His naps have always been a struggle. Mornings are usually good with a nap around 9:30 for about 1 hr. Afternoons I almost always need to do a stroller nap and they are around 45 min. He usually goes to bed around 6:00/6:30. I am not sure if he is truly hungry in those early hours or if I should be forcing him to wait until 6:00? Should I then always start the day or should I put him back down?

    • Debbye @ The Baby Sleep Site says

      Hi @Amanda – Thank you for writing, and I’m sorry that sleep is not going smoothly! Those early morning wake ups can be tough to solve and can feel brutal!
      It sounds like you are working hard to teach your son good sleep habits. Sleep problems are quite common at this age, and being sick and traveling can disrupt even the best sleepers!
      Here is a link to a few sample schedules to use as reference when planning his day and night sleep:
      We can definitely help with this issue, and if things do not smooth out, and you would like additional help with this, I do believe you could benefit from one of our Sleep Consultation packages, where one of our experts can take an in depth look at everything in your son’s sleep history and schedules, and she will work with you on a detailed plan that you can commit to and feel good about.
      You can read about all of our sleep consultation packages here:
      Hang in there Amanda, and let us know if you have any questions!