The team members here at the Baby Sleep Site® work hard to stay on top of the latest news and trends related to sleep – particularly baby and toddler sleep. It’s important to us that we’re always using current research, recommendations, and best practices in our work with families.
So when one of our sleep consultants passed a local news story about an emerging sleep trend along to the rest of us, we were eager to read it! Imagine our surprise, though, when we read the news headline: Parents Turn to ‘Sleeping Pills’ for Kids.
Parents Are Giving ‘Sleeping Pills’ To Their Babies and Toddlers
Turns out the ‘sleeping pills’ referred to in the story aren’t actual sleeping pills. The story is really about parents who give their young children melatonin at night, in an effort to help their babies and toddlers sleep.
For many families, melatonin makes a huge difference in their children’s sleep. That was true for Mindie Barnett, a mom who was interviewed for this news story. As she explained, it used to take her toddler up to 2 hours to fall asleep at bedtime; now, with the help of the melatonin drops, it takes just 10 minutes.
Big improvement, right? And all thanks to a natural, doctor-prescribed sleep aid. But Barnett isn’t alone; increasing numbers of parents are turning to melatonin to “cure” their children’s sleep problems. As Dr. Sanjeev Kothare, who was also interviewed for the story, points out,
“Families have heard from others, they’ve seen on the Internet, they’ve seen it on TV, that melatonin may be a useful product and an easy fix,” said Dr. Sanjeev Kothare of NYU Langone Medical Center.
But Is Melatonin Safe to Use as a Sleep Aid?
Does all of this sound too good to be true? That’s because it is. Yes, melatonin is effective in helping children fall asleep quickly, but is it safe for babies’ and toddlers’ growing little bodies? What about the long-term effects?
That’s where things get a bit alarming. There’s a lack of clinical research to indicate whether or not long-term use of melatonin is safe. However, since melatonin itself is a hormone, and since it regulates other systems in the body (particularly systems that control puberty-related changes), it seems safe to assume that giving melatonin to a child on a regular basis, over months or even years, would have some effect.
What’s more, many pediatricians fear that if children take melatonin supplements long-term, they may become dependent on them to fall asleep (psychologically dependent, and perhaps even physically dependent). In other words, kids may get “hooked” on melatonin, and need it in order to fall asleep.
While many doctors agree that melatonin can be excellent for the small percentage of children who suffer from serious sleep disorders (especially disorders that are caused by reduced melatonin levels), they quickly point out that healthy children really don’t need additional melatonin.
Why Are Parents Giving Melatonin to Healthy Children?
So why are parents giving healthy kids this supplement? Michael Breus, a clinical psychologist, shared his opinion in a recent Wall Street Journal article:
“Parents are using melatonin because they are stressed out,” said Michael Breus, a clinical psychologist and board-certified sleep specialist who knows parents that have given melatonin to their children for years at a stretch. “They come home late, eat dinner late, and they think they can just flick an on-off switch for their children to get to sleep.”
This is understandable, right? And I would add another reason to Dr. Breus’s: even those parents who do everything right (use a predictable daily schedule, have a strong bedtime routine, work to break sleep associations, etc.) sometimes really struggle with getting their babies to sleep well, and with getting their toddlers to go to bed at night. Sometimes, parents work and work at improving sleep, and it’s still hard. No wonder, then, that parents may feel tempted to turn to a “quick fix” like melatonin supplements.
Nicole’s Note:
“I can’t tell you how many times it’s happened that someone comes to me with a toddler sleep ‘problem’ which is not a problem at all. If your 2 1/2 year old is taking two hours to fall asleep, for example, many people don’t realize that many 2 1/2 year olds can now stay awake sometimes 6 hours. If she is napping 1-3pm, you’re looking at a possible 9pm bedtime, not 7pm! In addition, I have families ask me if melatonin will help with night-wakings and keep in mind it mostly helps with falling asleep initially at night, not for later in the night. It is not wise to be ‘re-dosing’ melatonin throughout the night.”
Skip Melatonin Supplements, and Teach Your Child to Sleep
As more and more parents turn to melatonin to help “cure” their children’s sleep problems, healthcare professionals are pushing back and urging parents not to use these “magic sleeping pills” as a cure-all.
We think this is wise advice. We believe that, with time and plenty of support and help, every baby and toddler can learn to sleep through the night, and to take long and restful naps. A small percentage of children may have a medical need for melatonin supplements, but the vast majority do not. For those children, using melatonin to “fix” their sleep problems is not only ineffective, it’s potentially dangerous.
Instead, we urge parents to take the time, and to do the work, to truly solve their children’s sleep problems. This often takes a comprehensive approach – one which takes the whole child into account. Let’s put it this way:
There are many gentle sleep training techniques that can bring a child’s body into harmony, resulting in healthy sleep. We must stop putting a band-aid on a problem, (in this case, a potentially dangerous band-aid). Instead, we need to address the entire child – nutrition, routine, relationships, medical history, family philosophy, temperament, and personal development. This is what we do at the Baby Sleep Site®, and it’s why I’m proud to serve clients here.
In our opinion, the bottom line is this: no supplement is a substitute for healthy sleeping habits.
Alwaysawake says
Hi there,
My son is 20 months and he still wakes 5-7 times per night. We have tried everything, lots of out door activity, taking away day time naps, no late napping what so ever, doctors visits, switching from homo milk to lactose, stories, his bed, my bed, seemingly everything. Doctors could not find anything wrong, my nurse suggests that he is waking up to be comforted (sippy cup).
Would melatonin be ideal for my child?
Danielle says
Hi Sherilyn,
I’m sorry to hear that you’re struggling with your baby’s sleep after so much work! Based on your description of his interest in the sippy cup, though, it sounds like your son is likely struggling with a sleep association, and melatonin would not be appropriate until you’ve worked to wean those associations, so your son can learn to fall asleep and go back to sleep on his own. We have an article all about sleep associations here: https://www.babysleepsite.com/sleep-training/sleep-association/
And we also have an article series with some sleep training approaches that you can try at home, with your son, to work on improving these associations: https://www.babysleepsite.com/sleep-training/sleep-training-from-no-cry-to-cry-series-part-1/
We also work on these in our consultations, if you need more help. I hope this helps, but please let us know if you have any questions, and good luck!
Debbye @ The Baby Sleep Site says
Hi Ekaterina and Corrine,
Thank you both very much for reading us at The Baby Sleep Site! We definitely always appreciate varying positions and opinions on every side of an issue. Of course, we recommend talking with your doctor and/or a specialist before starting anything new, and we also want to rule out other issues for sleep issues as well, before starting anything new.
We know that we all want to do the best for our children, and there are always a lot of unique factors to consider! Almost always, the end goals of each family are the same – a healthy and happy family – and the end result is also likely the same – a well rested family. We often need to take different paths to get there, and that is why The Baby Sleep Site is here! There is no “one size fits all” answer to sleep, or to parenting, and we are here to support each and everyone on their unique journey!
We hope that you find our information helpful, and know that we are here to support you!
Keep reading, and thanks again for your comments!
Corrine Wolf says
Wow,
I cannot believe the amount of mom shaming in your comment! This supplement has not been proven to be dangerous at all. There simply a lack of long term research. However it iseems often recommended by pediatricians. If a parent is choosing to trust there pediatrician, I believe they are trying to do the best for their child. Not looking for a quick fix here. Simply looking for resources and other parents for support. Parenting is NOT one size fits all. We all have to find our own way to do the best we can for out children. I am disgusted with the amount of shaming going on.
As far as your ignorant comment about parents trying to “work less”, “spend more time” with their children and quit looking for “quick fixes”, this is just to one sided and judgemental. Many of us are stay at home parents who spend endless amounts of time with our toddlers, many of us look at countless books and resources,which is why we are on this site. Please stop all the judgment!
Ekaterina says
Hi, Nicole!
Definitely I don’t and won’t give my baby these seeping pills. I think those parents that give these pills are trying to fix their wrong behavior. Instead of trying to work less and come home earlier to spend the time with their children, they’re looking for excuses and quick solutions. And the most important, they harm their children. There are so many natural sleep techniques and exercises to try. It’s possible to consult with baby sleep specialists too. Why choose something dangerous!?
Kim says
My toddler wakes up religiously at 3am with all the screaming and fussing she can bring (has been for months) she use to sleep all night but now NOPE. Her schedule has never changed there is no new environment or peoplethe only change is her. we have jobs and if want to keep them we can’t continue this asinine routine. Our doctor told us it was a phase, and to just put up with it. Well, here we are over 6 months later and nothing has improved… Gave her Melatonin tonight, she’s out cold… Guess it’s worthwhile after all
Danielle says
Hi Kim,
Thanks so much for visiting us! I’m sorry to hear that you’ve been struggling so much with your toddler’s sleep, but glad to hear you got at least one good night! I’m not sure how old she is, but we do have a great free guide with tips for toddler sleep you can sign up for here: https://www.babysleepsite.com/toddler-sleep-training-secrets-free-ebook/
If you are still having any trouble, please feel free to write in with us with some information about what’s going on, and her age – we’d love to help! Our email is [email protected]. Thanks again!
Emily DeJeu says
@ Angela Braden – thanks for sharing this info! 🙂
Angela Braden says
Hi, it’s Angela, parenting journalist and blogger at sciencemommmy.weebly.com. I can add a couple of points since I researched this a while back ; )Some sources caution against using more than 1mg for children under 15 YEARS, since doses over 1mg have caused seizures. (Yikes!) Also, to the question about natural melatonin deficiency -This can be a real issue since kids don’t get out in the sun and play enough. If parents can just expose them to sunlight a bit during the day, Ironically, I’ve found in my coaching experience,this can help tremendously! They sleep more easily naturally (there are studies that show sunlight help regulate melatonin). Though light exposure at night can reportedly interfere with melatonin production(go figure!)hope that helps!
Emily DeJeu says
@ David — I can’t make specific recommendations about when it’s time to contact child service authorities, but I do feel confident in saying that 3-5 mg of melatonin is likely too much for an 18 month old child. This is the amount you’d give to an older child – a tween or teen, for instance. If you look through the comments here, and through other articles on melatonin for children, you’ll see that most parents who use it give their little ones less than 1 mg, and they do that infrequently. So yes, this is too high a dose, and it really shouldn’t be given regularly, unless the child’s healthcare provider has prescribed it for an underlying condition.
Hope this information helps. And sorry about your situation; sounds like it’s less than ideal for everyone involved. 🙁 Best of luck to you, and thanks for reaching out!
David says
The mother of my girlfriend’s 1 1/2 yr. old grandson has been reported by a reliable source to be crushing up 3-5mg melatonin pills and mixing it with his drink bottle at night, not to HELP him sleep, but to MAKE him sleep. She has 50/50 custody of the 1 1/2 yr. old with my girlfriend’s son, who is not the biological father, but is the presumed father as awarded by the court. The mother and father alternate weeks with the child. She gives him melatonin pills while he is with her, then when the father has him, he can’t get the baby to sleep at night. The father does not know of the pills yet. The mother is extremely lazy and spends more time on Facebook than she does with her own kids, a 1 1/2 yr. old and a 2 1/2 yr. old. Is this reason enough to contact child services and have them investigate the situation?
Emily DeJeu says
@ Anna H – melatonin might be a good solution (since it’s best used as a short-term solution, and since jet-lag is a short-term problem). I’d definitely advise checking with your baby’s doctor first, though, just to be sure melatonin would jive with your little one’s medical history, and wouldn’t cause any problems.
Thanks for making this point, Anna! 🙂
@ Jenny – I think the key word in your comment is ‘sparingly’; sounds like you’re using melatonin for specific instances when sleep is thrown off, and not as a general cure-all for chronic sleep issues. Provided your son’s healthcare provider thinks this is a safe approach, then there’s likely nothing wrong at all with using melatonin for extra help in specific cases. I think it’s when parents use melatonin every night, for months (or years) on end, that problems arise. In those cases, there are likely other factors in play that are causing sleep disturbances.
Thanks for sharing your opinion with us, Jenny, and for letting us know about your experiences using melatonin! 🙂