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Exhausted and Confused?   Yes! I need help and more sleep.
Exhausted and Confused?   Yes! I need help and more sleep.
Exhausted and Confused?   Yes! I need help and more sleep.

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  1. Cayla says

    My little man is 8 months old. He was sleeping through the night for the most part sometimes he’d wake once to breastfeed. Once he reached his 8 month milestone he has taken up up to 3 times in the night. He loves food loves breast and now his naps he’s been struggling with as well. I have always been able to just put him in his crib and he wouldn’t cry he’d just go straight down. Now I find it can take quite a while for him to settle now that he’s moving more it’s becoming harder.

    Wake up: 8:00 am usually will want breastmilk
    Breakfast: 9:30 rice cereal
    Nap/breastfeed: 10-12:30
    Lunch/breastfeed: 1:00
    Nap: 2-4
    Breastfeed: 4:00
    Dinner: 5:00
    Snack:6:30
    Bedtime/breastfeed: 7:00
    He generally will be out by 7:15 depending on the day he’s had I put him down by 6 if his naps were off at all

    • Danielle says

      Hi Cayla,
      Thank you for using The Baby Sleep Site as a resource! I’m sorry to hear you’re having this trouble with your son’s sleep. Since the trouble is pretty recent and sudden, it sounds like you could be experiencing the 8 month sleep regression. We have a great article with some tips to help here: https://www.babysleepsite.com/sleep-regression-2/the-8-10-month-sleep-regression-survival-guide/
      I hope that helps, but please let us know if you have any questions. Good luck!

  2. Tameka Morales says

    I’m trying to start a schedule for my almost 9 month old. Right now she goes to bed at about 9 and sleeps until about 9 am. When I go back to work in a month she’ll have to get up much earlier (about 6:30). I noticed the schedule you suggested had a bedtime of about 7. Is that a good time that babies her age should try to go to sleep or is 8 or 9 okay? She has 3 older siblings though that don’t go to bed until about 9 and during the Fall and spring we will have ballgames and won’t get home until after 7 or 8 many times (of course by then she’ll be a year or older. I just get confused so confused because she’ll sleep til 9 and wake up still rubbing her eyes after she eats many times. Thanks for your help as we try to begin a more consistent schedule with her.

    • Danielle says

      Hi Tameka,
      Thanks for checking out The Baby Sleep Site! I’d be happy to help with your schedule questions. I think you might like our article on how much sleep a baby needs by age: https://www.babysleepsite.com/baby-sleep-needs/baby-how-much-sleep/
      Basically, what you want to do is make sure she’s getting the opportunity to get 11-12 hours of night sleep. If your daughter is flexible, you can absolutely adjust bedtime around your family’s schedule, but night sleep is more restorative than nap sleep, so it’s important to prioritize it to the best of your ability. Many babies do best with an early bedtime around 7PM, in part because many babies are expected to wake up around 7AM. Your family is busy, and there will always be days when she falls asleep late or on the car ride home, but you want to avoid that as much as you can.

      It sounds from your comment like she might be waking up to eat more at night than she really should need to for her age – if that’s the case, you might have an issue with her feeding schedule, or she might have a sleep association that’s making it harder for her to sleep independently at night. If you continue to have problems with those issues, or if you’re having trouble creating a schedule that works for everyone, a sleep consultation package might be the best fit, so a consultant can design a plan and schedule for you.

      I hope this helps – good luck!

  3. karine says

    hi my baby is 9 month old

    he sleep at 7:30 pm and wake up at 11 pm for a bottle of milk maximum 180 ml and then got to sleep till 3:30 and again he will start crying for milk till 6 am he will wake up

    from the beginning my baby does not sleep well i am trying to let him sleep minimum 8 hrs but my actions failed
    pls i need your help

    • Neosha says

      @Karine – Thank you for reading and for sharing. We’re happy to help and will have someone from our team reach out to you directly with some options. Hang in there!

  4. Nicole Haglund says

    Hi, this is my almost 9 month olds schedule.

    7am- wake up, 6oz formula then feed solids (breakfast)
    930-11 nap
    11am- 6oz formula then feed solids (lunch)
    130-3 nap
    3pm- 6oz formula no solids
    6:15pm- solids only (dinner)
    7:30-6oz formula and bedtime
    He sleeps through the night no problems

    • Janelle Reid says

      Hi @Nicole Haglund, thanks for sharing! So glad you’ve got a great schedule for your little guy that is working so well. 🙂

  5. Constance Kilburn says

    My daughters current schedule is
    7:30 am wake up 6oz bottle
    8 am breakfast
    10am 6oz bottle
    10am – 12 pm nap
    12 pm 6oz bottle
    1 pm lunch
    3pm -4 pm nap
    4 pm bottle 6oz
    6pm dinner
    7pm bottle 6oz
    11:30 she finally falls asleep

    How can I get her to bed earlier!?

    • Janelle Reid says

      Hi @Constance Kilburn, thanks for writing. I am so sorry to hear it’s taking so long for your daughter to fall asleep! That must be tough! Is she playing in her bed during that time, or crying, or being rocked/comforted by you? Let me know and I will happily point you in the direction of some further resources to help. 🙂 If you want, feel free to email us directly some more details to [email protected] and we can help you further from there too. Hang in there!

      • Constance Kilburn says

        We were letting her play but now I try to rock her to sleep in her room

        Update:
        We have gotten her to start waking up at 7 am, nap for 1 hour from 9-10 am, then one hour from 2-3pm, and asleep anywhere from 9pm to 10 pm. So a little better than 11:30! Unfortunately we waited to start her in a schedule and now it is during peak teething time…any tips for that besides Tylenol? We try to lay her down when she is sleepy, cry for 10 mins, go in and rock her, lay her down and repeat until she is asleep which generally takes an hour

      • Janelle Reid says

        Hi @Constance Kilburn, thanks for getting back to me. I’m glad that in a few short days you’ve been able to see improvement already, that is great news! Teething is so rough, I am going through it with my son right now too. I think what works for each child will be different – I personally have seen a lot of success with an amber teething necklace (but you need to take it off or some parents put it around the baby’s ankle for sleep), and we do ibuprofen for nights if it’s really bad. Here’s an article with a few other tips: https://www.babysleepsite.com/baby-sleep-comfort/baby-teething-sleep/
        I hope thing continue to improve!

  6. Brittany Christensen says

    When it the article above says most babies are sleeping through the night at this age, do they mean going from 7pm to 7am (like the sample schedule) without a feeding or do they mean 8 hours without a feeding since another article on the website defined STTN as 8 hours?
    Also, it says “ by this age I would not expect more than 1 feeding, typically, if any at all.” So doesn’t that mean only one feeding between 7pm and 7am generally around 4/5 to extend the sleep a few hours and no “top off feeds” earlier? At this point my son has consistently slept for 7 hours stretches but he really is NOT ok with going longer and he turns 10 months tomorrow. He is definitely that baby who needs to eat around 5 to make it until 7 am but in order for him to go that long I have to feed him at 10. IF I don’t he will wake at 1, then 3, then 5. So I prefer topping off at ten and not feeding again until 5am, but I would prefer to drop the 10pm feeding without him waking up super early and screaming his head off for me to feed him.

    • Janelle Reid says

      Hi @Brittany Christensen, thank you for visiting the Baby Sleep Site! In the article where we say most babies are able to sleep through the night at this age, we do mean the full 12 hours, although as you mentioned, this is not always the case (it wasn’t for my youngest son either as he needed that one feed through his 1 year birthday). It may take time for your son to transition to no feedings, or maybe looking at the calorie intake during the daytime hours to ensure he gets all he needs in a 24 hour period (and eventually transition him to getting all those calories during the daytime hours). Here is a link to a free guide that will have additional tips for you to help your guy sleep through the night if you decide to drop one of those feedings and need more help: https://www.babysleepsite.com/baby-sleep-through-night-free-ebook/
      I hope his sleep extends for you soon so you do not get that 5 am wake up call so if you need any more help contact us anytime at [email protected].
      Hang in there!

  7. Christina says

    Our daughter is 9 months old and here’s a peak at our schedule!
    Bedtime normally takes place around 9pm and we wake up about 8am
    8am: 8oz formula
    10am: oatmeal
    12pm: 6oz formula nap (this nap can last anywhere from 10 minutes to an hour)
    1pm: baby food
    3pm: snack 4oz formula
    5pm: 6oz formula nap (this nap can last anywhere from an hour to 2 hours)
    7pm: baby food and snack
    8pm: bath time
    9pm: 8oz formula and bedtime
    3am: wake up (take out of crib)
    4am: put her back in crib
    6am: repeat

    I’d love for her to sleep thru the night, in her own bed, so that I could rest! I’m so tired lately! Please help us!!

    • Janelle Reid says

      Hi @Christina, thanks for writing to us! I am sorry you’re exhausted, the wake up calls are so tough, I know how you feel. We would love to help. We have a free guide available for you to download with tips to help your baby sleep through the night. You can sign up to receive it here: https://www.babysleepsite.com/baby-sleep-through-night-free-ebook/
      The article will provide a lot of help, but some families do find they need more specific advise so if you are in that boat let us know and we would be happy to help point you in the direction of other ways we can help! You can check out our services page to work with a sleep consultant here if you’re ready to jump in: https://www.babysleepsite.com/baby-toddler-sleep-consulting-services/
      or send us an email anytime at [email protected] and with a little more information about your daughter we could help find the best fit for you. 🙂 Hang in there!

  8. Taylor says

    Hi, I am struggling with a nap schedule for my nine month old. She usually wakes up around 630-7, and then gets tired two hours later, however if I put her in at 830-9 she always wakes up one hour later, at 930-10. I would like to put her in for her second nap at 2 so she can wake at 3 and be ready for bed at 7 however with this schedule she is usually ready for her nap at one and when she wakes at 2 she cant go all the way till 7 for bedtime. Any ideas of how I can tweak her schedule to make it work for both of us?
    Thanks so much

    • Janelle Reid says

      Hi @Taylor, thanks for writing! Naps can be tricky when they have dropped that third nap and still need short wake times. We have a free guide all about naps that may have some answers for you. You can sign up to download the guide here: https://www.babysleepsite.com/free-baby-nap-guide/
      We also have an ebook all about naps that goes more in-depth than our free guide which you can read about and purchase online here: https://www.babysleepsite.com/mastering-naps/
      I hope this helps and you get on a schedule that works for you both soon!

  9. Christina says

    Hello,
    My baby is 9 months old and still waking 1-2x/ night. Each time I feed him so I don’t know if that is fostering a dependence on feeding in the middle of the night and if I should be weaning him off. Our schedule looks like the following if he wakes at 7am. If he wakes at 6, feeds, and then sometimes wakes at 730 or 8 then the times might be off just a little.
    7am wake, breastfeed (“feed”)
    8am 4oz jar of fruits
    10-11am nap
    11am feed
    2-3pm nap
    3pm feed
    5pm 4oz jar of fruits/ veggies
    7pm half jar of meat/ veggies
    8pm bedtime w feeding.
    1am wake- feed (will fall back asleep)
    4 or 5am wake- feed (will fall back asleep) OR
    6am wake (sometimes will stay up babbling and will sometimes fall back asleep with a feeding

    Is the bedtime too late? Ideally I’d love an 8am start to the day. I’m not sure how to help him. His naps can range between 40min- 1.5 hours so the schedule can sometimes be a little off depending on the naps. But I always try to feed him about 4 hours apart regardless.

    Thank you for your help!

    • Janelle Reid says

      Hi @Christina, thanks for writing to us! I am sorry you’ve been struggling with multiple wake ups at night and inconsistent naps. We have a free guide available for you to download with tips for helping your baby sleep through the night that you can sign up to receive here: https://www.babysleepsite.com/baby-sleep-through-night-free-ebook/
      You may try bringing his bedtime earlier to see if that helps, it’s a pretty long stretch he’s having between his second nap and bedtime, and overtired babies actually sleep less than well rested babies believe it or not. If you need additional help with the schedule, let us know. We have a team of sleep consultants that would love to help you create a schedule that works well for you and your baby. To see the different options to work with a consultant you can visit this page: https://www.babysleepsite.com/baby-toddler-sleep-consulting-services/
      I hope this helps!

      • Christina says

        Hi Janelle,
        I’m sorry, I completely forgot to put another nap on there. He will sometimes take a short nap around 5 or 6pm.

      • Janelle Reid says

        Hi @Christina, that definitely makes more sense, that would be a long stretch for such a little guy! If it was my baby, I would still try for the earlier bedtime and see if it helps. Unfortunately it may mean you don’t get the 8am wake up, but at least he’d be getting a full 12 hours. If you’re really set on an 8am wake up and need help to get there (or moving bedtime back still leaves you with more than 1 wake up each night – as 1 is sometimes needed until 12 months for some babies) then let us know and we can help you further!

  10. Rachel says

    Hi,

    My 9 month old’s sleep has been all over the place for the past few months. He’s been popping out teeth so I feel that’s caused quite a few interruptions.

    Currently (the last week) we are struggling with the fact that we can’t keep him up for longer than 2-2.5 hours. He just loses it, this means he’s having 3 or 4 naps a day :/ these naps are all 20-40mins long and he’s been almost constantly cranky 🙁
    He sleeps fine at night, just wakes once when it gets to the colder part of the night and we just pop his dummy in and he falls back asleep.
    How do I help him nap longer so he can stay awake longer

    • Neosha says

      @Rachel – Thank you for stopping by our sleepy little village and for your comment. Teething can definitely upset a baby’s sleep for a while, for sure! It sounds like your little guy is having a bit of trouble staying asleep or sleeping in longer stretches during the daytime. Have you been able to read our free nap guide – it goes over common napping issues and suggests ideas for improving them. If not, you can find it here: https://www.babysleepsite.com/free-baby-nap-guide/ I hope this helps, Rachel. Hang in there!