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Exhausted and Confused?   Yes! I need help and more sleep.
Exhausted and Confused?   Yes! I need help and more sleep.
Exhausted and Confused?   Yes! I need help and more sleep.

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  1. Wendy Kommany says

    My baby stopped waking up at night at 8 months… He started decreasing his feedings at night on his own so I didn’t want to push it and just let him do it at his own time… One night it just happened! And then another night, the third night he woke up and fussed a little bit… Less than 5 minutes and went back to sleep again, I am quite surpised because he started teething soon after he was sleeping through the night and so far it hasn’t affected his sleep…

  2. Jen says

    My big baby boy is 7.5 months now. When he was about 6.5 mo we used controlled crying to reduce his night wakings from 5-6 to 2. This was really successful for us and we’re thinking about “asking” the babe if he really just wants 1 feeding. He’s also waking up for the day at 5 with a dirty diaper (which is a bit early for our tastes!). I have a feeling if he eats a little less at night, he might not eliminate until a little later in the am. My question is if we were to attempt to go from 2 to 1 feedings, which one do we cut? The midnight or 4am feeding? Those of you who have a babe who only eats once, what time do they wake? Thanks! Love this site!!

  3. Goli says

    My 7 month old baby often nurses frequently at night. We co sleep and I wonder if my presence makes him want to nurse more. I nurse him to sleep around 7:00 pm each night and usually go to bed myself a few hours later. He seldom wakes up fully. I was fine with this arrangement since I never felt exhausted in the mornings. But now there’s been times when he wants to nurse so many times that I’m starting to feel tired. We’ve had problems with feeding during the day. But I’ve really tried to encourage him to eat more. He doesn’t settle for bf in the day unless he’s tired and sleepy. So I’ve been pumping and offering him a sippy cup during the day which he takes. I wonder how else I can encourage him to eat more during the day and less at night. I totally feel that 2 feeds is the maximum he needs at night.

    Thank you for you great website.

  4. Kerry says

    We have an 14-month-old who only recently started sleeping in his crib for long stretches at night. He has yet to make it through without a night feeding, which up till now has been alright with me. However, I’m starting to feel the need to wean him, especially during the night, in order to get him to eat more during the day. (He doesn’t nurse much during the day either, probably because he’s become accustomed to those night feedings.) I can’t deny that I’ve been prolonging the issue by continuing to nurse him in our bed when he wakes up; till now, it’s just been easier to offer him the breast instead of walking him around for 20 minutes to get him back to Dreamland – or worse -leaving him in the crib to cry it out. Since we room share as well, I’m very quick to wake and bring him in the bed with us when I hear the whimpers and see his little shadow standing in the crib. It’s not an option for us to give him his own room (space issues) but I wonder how I will be able to night wean him without a possible meltdown and several nights of no sleep for any of us. Sound familiar to anyone out there?

  5. Emily DeJeu says

    @ Katy – typically, little ones don’t need to eat at night after about 12 months. So it’s likely that your daughter is waking out of habit at this point, and not necessarily out of need. As we like to say, that’s not a problem unless it’s a problem for you – but it sounds like that it most definitely is a problem for you! Have you tried any night weaning yet, since she’s not doing it herself? Also — see Kat M’s comment, right below yours, for some additional insights; sounds like she was in a similar situation.

    Thanks for reaching out, Katy! Keep us posted, and don’t hesitate to ask if you have more questions.

    @ KatM – glad to hear your consultation was helpful, and that your consultant was affirming of your choices! And you make a really good point here; it has to feel like the right team for YOU in order for it to be the right time 🙂 Just because a baby can go without calories at night after 12 months doesn’t mean it’s necessarily the ‘right time’ to do so – especially if mom and dad aren’t comfortable with night weaning yet! And you’re spot-on in your statement about nursing; it’s about nourishment, yes, but it’s about more than that, too.

    Thanks for commenting, Kat!

    @ Aloka – good for you, for following your instincts (and desires!), and for not taking steps to night wean until you feel ready. There’s certainly nothing wrong with a little snuggle and nursing in the middle of the night – it’s not a problem unless it’s a problem for you. So if you’re comfortable, and your baby is thriving, then things are good!

    Thanks for taking the time to comment, Aloka! 🙂

  6. Aloka says

    My 11 month old wakes at 1 am and 4 am to nurse.
    I know I can stop it and I know if we try for three days we will manage. I just don’t feel I want to do it yet because I am hoping he will drop it when he is ready.
    Incase he doesn’t then I plan to stop night feedings when he is older and can understand me when I tell him we are no longer going to nurse at night.
    My paediatrician told me at nine months that I should stop. I didn’t because I didn’t feel the need.
    Also none of the signs listed in this article apply to my baby.
    I love this site. Thanks so much for the kind take on sleep issues.

  7. KatM says

    I struggled with this question a lot with my daughter. Different sources had different information. A consult with a sleep expert here was re-assuring that it was a personal decision and there was no need to force it at arbitrary time but also gave us some thoughts about how to proceed when we were ready. Gradually lengthening the time between feeds, etc. We more or less let our daughter lead the way. Around 12 months she dropped one of her two night feeds and by 14 months she had dropped both. A key was not going in right away when I heard peeps and if she re-settled I knew she wasn’t needing me. I do think for us and for her if we had tried to set a particular time line it would have been stressful. 14 months was late according to most books etc but it was the right time for us. Thankfully our pediatrician said after 12 months she didn’t necessarily need the calories at night but it was up to us if we felt OK with a slower pace. I truly believe nursing is not just about calories and that is evident in my now 2 year old still nursing at nap and bedtime.

  8. Katy says

    My daughter is 13 months old and still wakes twice at night to eat. I wish she would night wean herself, I’m tired! She usually wakes around 10:30 and 3 or 4. I don’t want to deprive her of my milk, but she’s obviously on lots of solids and drinks cow’s milk at daycare.

  9. Emily DeJeu says

    @ Sarah – enjoy it! Newborns do tend to sleep a lot. Some babies continue their long stretches of sleep at night after the newborn stage, and go on to sleep through the night quite early. Others, however, start waking up more at night once their sleeping patterns change around 4 months of age (called the 4 month sleep regression – read more about it here: https://www.babysleepsite.com/how-we-sleep/4-month-old-sleep-regression/) So if your daughter falls out of this pattern and starts waking up more at night, don’t be discourage – it’s normal. For your sake, though, I hope she sticks with her current sleeping pattern!

    Thanks for commenting, Sarah! 🙂

  10. Sarah says

    Wow… my baby is almost 8 weeks old, and she’s been doing 11-12 hour nights with only one feeding for well over a week now. But she is still having her fussy evenings (though it’s been getting a lot better), and I just need to know how to shift her current night from 10pm-10am a little earlier! lol