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Exhausted and Confused?   Yes! I need help and more sleep.
Exhausted and Confused?   Yes! I need help and more sleep.
Exhausted and Confused?   Yes! I need help and more sleep.

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  1. Kayla says

    My 11 month old struggles to stay awake longer than 3 hours for her wake times.

    She’s still going down for her first nap 2-2.5 hours after waking up, second nap is 3 hours after her morning nap, and she’s ready for bed about 3 hours after her afternoon nap.

    Should I try to stretch her for longer periods? I’m worried if I do she’ll get overtired.

    • Janelle Reid says

      Hi @Kayla, thanks for writing to us! Is her her schedule allowing for her to still go to bed at a normal time (and not at like 5pm or something)? If she’s on a schedule that is working for your family, and getting the sleep she needs in a 24 hour period with at least 1 hour naps, I wouldn’t stress. But if she’s waking a bunch at night or taking super short naps, there may be something that needs to be shifted. Let me know and I can better answer your question. 🙂 Thanks!

  2. Emily says

    Hoping someone can offer some advice- Our 11 month old won’t sleep. At least, not much. She wakes up at around 5am every day, plays all day (no naps, other than an occasional 15 minutes in the car or while nursing), and falls asleep at around 10 o’clock at night. She usually wakes up twice during the night and I have to breastfeed her to get her back to sleep. Otherwise, she’ll stand in her crib and scream until she passes out (standing up) and generally will fall and hit her head on the side of the crib, which is obviously not good. She does the same thing when we try to lay her down for naps during the day, except she never wears herself out. She’s stood in her bed for over an hour before, crying (we check on her periodically and try to comfort her without removing her from the crib). I have spoken to our pediatrician at length about it and she has been thoroughly examined and is a perfectly healthy little girl. My husband and I feel like we’re losing our minds. The only way one of us can get any sleep is if the other drives our daughter around for a couple hours at in the middle of the night. Honestly though, I’m much less concerned about our sleep deprivation. I’m very concerned about her development if she’s only getting 5-6 hours of sleep every night and then taking little 15-minute cat naps throughout the day.

    • Janelle Reid says

      Hi @Emily, thanks so much for writing. I am so sorry to hear your daughter is fighting sleep so badly, I am sure this is wearing on your and your husband very much as well. I think in your situation you would greatly benefit from working with one of our sleep consultants. They have helped families in similar situations to yours and have many different approaches to help, and they will see this through with you to the end. We have a plan where you can email an unlimited amount of times with a consultant for a set number of days, and I think that plan would be very helpful for this situation. If you are interested, you can read more here: https://www.babysleepsite.com/baby-toddler-sleep-consulting-services/
      If you have any questions about how it all works, let us know! You can email us directly at [email protected]
      Hang in there!

  3. Carlen says

    Waving the flag of surrender..my 11 month old daughter has never slept through the night, and i am exhausted. Our girl wakes screaming and crying (in a sleep state), struggling to self-soothe every night 1-3 times. We introduced soothers at 7 months and lovey which she loves. I weaned her however with teething, reintroduced. I haven’t been consistent at nights purely out of survival.

    Do I just have a non-sleeper ? Anyone else child screams in a sleep state nightly?
    What can I do..

    Thank you

    • Danielle says

      Hi Carlen,
      Thank you for using The Baby Sleep Site as a resource! I’m so sorry to hear you’ve been struggling with sleep for so long. Most babies who sort of half-wake like you describe are dealing with a scheduling issue, and are overtired. Being overtired can cause trouble when a baby transitions between sleep cycles, and makes it harder to help them learn to fall back asleep on their own when they wake at night. We have a great article on overtiredness that I hope will help you here: https://www.babysleepsite.com/sleep-training/overtired-baby/
      If you need some support, please do consider a personalized sleep consultation with one of our experts – this type of situation is exactly why we are here, and we’d love to help. You can read more about our packages here: https://www.babysleepsite.com/baby-toddler-sleep-consulting-services/
      Please let know if you have any questions!

  4. Kathryn says

    Hi! I have a dilemma I’m hoping you can help me with. My 11month old is still waking at least once a night sometimes more. As she has had issues with weight gain in the past I have always fed her when she wakes. My problem is that now we can’t tell whether she is waking hungry or out of habit (she is gaining weight fine now). She also seems extremely attached to me so even when we have tried to have her dad settle her overnight after having a feed so we know she isn’t hungry she screams the house down until I get up again to feed her to sleep. I believe the feeding overnight is also impacting on her eating throughout the day which I am concerned about due to her previous weight issues. She settles on her own very well at the beginning of all naps and at bedtime and her day sleep is excellent getting about 2-2.5 hours. I’m getting very exhausted as I am up for at least an hour every night feeding her and putting her back to sleep as my husband has almost given up trying to help because she screams for me and I can’t catch up on sleep during the day as I have a 3 year old and I also work. Any advice or insight would be greatly appreciated.

    • Debbye @ The Baby Sleep Site says

      Hi @Kathryn – Thank you for writing to us! I am sorry that you are struggling with your 11 month old baby! We certainly understand how exhausting those night wakings can be, especially when she is awake for an hour or more, and you have another little one to take care of and work too! This article can help determine if it may be time to drop that last feeding:
      https://www.babysleepsite.com/sleep-training/baby-night-wean-3-signs/
      If you find that you need help with night weaning, and teaching her to fall asleep on her own when she wakes, please check out our consultation packages here: https://www.babysleepsite.com/services/ or contact us for more help.
      Hang in there Kathryn!!

  5. Carrie says

    My 11 month old went thru a phase of sitting up when we put him down for naps and was refusing to nap if we put him in bed awake and would sit and cry for an hour until I got him out and would just skip the nap. We were given advice to move him to one nap a day and with some rocking and back patting he will go down for the nap (but definitely needs the assistance to fall asleep) and has gotten used to the one nap per day. But then at night he has been falling asleep while nursing so I know he’s exhausted by the end of the day, and then I put him bed and he sleeps about 10 hours straight. So he’s only getting 12-13 hours of sleep per day and we are almost never putting him to sleep awake anymore. Before this phase started of him sitting up we were able to lay him on his tummy and he would cry himself to sleep, sometimes really quickly and other times in 10-15 minutes.

    Any advice for how to get him to fall asleep on his own again?

    Thanks for your help!

    • Danielle says

      Hi Carrie,
      Thank you for using The Baby Sleep Site as a resource! Reading your comment, I feel like you would benefit from this article: https://www.babysleepsite.com/baby-naps-2/12-month-olds-one-nap-transition/
      Basically, there is a common regression around this age that makes it look like a baby is ready for one nap, but really the baby will still need two naps until 15-18 months-old. Some year-old children do okay with one nap, but it sounds like you’re seeing that your son is overtired and not getting enough sleep. Overtiredness can actually stop a baby from being able to fall asleep on their own. I would really consider adding a second nap back in for a week or two and seeing if it helps. Good luck!

  6. Sarah says

    I have an 11 months old. She has started to wake up at 5:00 am or 5:30 am every morning. I don’t know how to get her to sleep longer. We get her ready for bed at 6:45 pm, She is in bed and usually asleep by 7:30 pm. She gets up and is really tired by 8:30 am for her first nap. Her naps have extended because of the early rise. I am not sure if she is waking because she is hungry or what. Even if she just slept until 6, I would be thrilled. I have tried feading/changing her and then putting her back to bed, but she wont go back down. I am not sure where to start or what to do. This has been going on for about 4 weeks now. I thought she would move past this as she used to sleep until 7, then it was 6, and now here we are.

    • Neosha says

      @Sarah – Thank you for stopping by our sleepy little village and for sharing with us. Early rising is such a common problem for 11 month old babies! This article may help you with tips on overcoming this early rising: https://www.babysleepsite.com/how-we-sleep/baby-waking-too-early/ Since it’s been going on so long, though, you may want to consider working one-on-one with one of our expert sleep consultants who can walk you through helping your little girl sleep longer step-by-step. You can read more about our lovely team here:https://www.babysleepsite.com/about Hang in there!

  7. shelley says

    I follow the sample schedule above. Works great. I do have a question… at 11 months what’s the larger driver, consistent 7pm bedtime or 4 hour wake after end of last nap. The reason I ask is sometimes he naps 1 and 1/2 hours. Thanks.

    • Neosha says

      @Shelley – Thank you for reading and for sharing with us. What great news that the sample 11 Month Old Baby Schedule is working well for you all! 🙂 Babies this age are so unique that trial and error is truly your best friend. Some babies live wonderfully by a fixed schedule while others work best on a looser “wake time” schedule. Keep us posted on how things are going, Shelley!

  8. Dana says

    My daughter and I lived at my dad’s for 9 months. Then he and I got into a disagreement. Now we have been staying at a friend of a friend’s house. Just recently we got our own room plus this guy that i started seeing. At my dad’s my baby would sleep all though the night and wake up around 9 am. Now she is awake at 1am, sometimes sleeping from around 9 to 10pm to then. Other times no sleeping nap at all. Then from 1am she will stay awake until around about 4am. Sleeping until 1 to 2pm. Then most of the day. Sometimes she wakes for a morning feeding sometimes not. She also started teething.
    Is she did this all happen because she is unsettled? Does it make me a bad mommy? Do I put my foot down and at 9pm kick the new boyfriend out and my baby girl and I get her ready for bedtime/do our nighttime rountine just her and I???
    I know she needs to go back and be on a rountine/schedule

    • Janelle Reid says

      Hi @Dana, and thank you for writing. First of all, I want you to know that because your daughter is off in her schedule that that does not make you a bad mom! It can be really difficult on babies to move, I just went through this with my son who is a little older than your daughter. It is super challenging and it takes time to get them into the new routine. I would recommend making a plan that you stick to consistently while she figures things out at the new place. We have a free guide you can download with tips to help your baby sleep through the night that you can download here: https://www.babysleepsite.com/baby-sleep-through-night-free-ebook/ I hope this helps you determine what the next steps will be for your daughter. If you need more specific information based on your situation, let us know. We offer one-on-one consulting with a sleep consultant as well as several other options that can give you a little more in-depth information if you need! You can view all the options here: https://www.babysleepsite.com/baby-toddler-sleep-consulting-services/
      Hang in there!

  9. Amaka says

    Hi Doctor,
    I have an 11 months old baby with a history of allergy. Once the itching starts, nothing works except a distraction from television we’ve consulted doctors who said nothing is wrong with gin just that he has a very sensitive body.
    He’s a very chill baby with no health issues just that allergy and dry skin, which results to lots of itching and uncomfortability.
    Kindly advise on what to do.

    Warm regards.

    • Danielle says

      Hi Amaka,
      Thank you for visiting The Baby Sleep Site! I’m sorry to hear about your son’s allergy troubles. Unfortunately, we are not doctors and cannot give medical advice – we only work with sleep concerns. I can recommend the AAP’s wonderful website, https://www.healthychildren.org/ , if you need help with a non-urgent medical concern. Good luck with everything!

  10. Liz says

    Please help. I have an 11 month old wakes up in the middle of the night almost every hour sometimes a couple of times in an hour. He seems very sleepy but very restless and this has been going on for about a month and a half. Prior to this, he used to sleep okay with about 4 to 6 hours stretches of sleep. He usually would want a bottle and then go back to sleep. Now, he doesn’t want anything.I’ve tried giving him a bottle, rocking him,co-sleeping, propping up his crib, rubbing his back, lullabies, dark room, nothing works. He has seen two doctors already and both say that nothing is physically wrong with him. He does have a history of reflux, but he is taking medication for that. The problem is not him going to sleep.. he falls asleep on his own or sometimes with me rocking him; he gets sleepy with his bottle too, but the problem is him waking up for no apparent reason over and over at night. When he wakes up, he usually cries a bit, moans, rolls around ,turns ,moves and seems pretty uncomfortable restless and tired. Usually falls back to sleep in less than 10 minutes but he wakes up so many times that he and I do not sleep anymore. I am concerned. I am exhausted. I don’t know what to do. He takes about two naps a day averaging an hour to two hours any advice would be greatly appreciated thank you

    • Janelle Reid says

      Hi @Liz, thank you for writing to us. I am sorry to hear your son has been experiencing restlessness in his sleep. It sounds like you have tried a lot of things and that he doesn’t have any sleep associations that are keeping him from going back to sleep on his own. I think your next step may be to work with a sleep consultant that can look at his full history and help you move forward through this in a way that you are comfortable with and is age appropriate for you son. If you are interested you can view our different options online here: https://www.babysleepsite.com/baby-toddler-sleep-consulting-services/ and you can also contact us directly if you need help figuring out the best package for your situation: https://www.babysleepsite.com/contact
      Hang in there and I hope things improve for you soon!