Comments on: Warning: Babywise May Not Be Right For Your Baby

By: Debbye @ The Baby Sleep Site

Debbye @ The Baby Sleep Site — Thu, 03 Oct 2019 00:03:46 +0000

In reply to Justine. Thanks for sharing what worked with you Justine! And for having a great and encouraging attitude!!

By: Justine

Justine — Sun, 29 Sep 2019 03:16:28 +0000

Thank you for this! I agree that each mother is the only one who knows their situation and their baby best.

Babywise was EXTREMELY helpful for me and my 3 babies who are so close in age (1.5 to 2 years apart). Like you said, the book is very very clear that you should feed your baby when they’re hungry, even if that means before the scheduled feeding time. I could mention all the good things about it and how many statements even mentioned above are misconceptions, but the best part about it that I’ll leave here is that it helped ME be a healthy mom, so that I could give my babies my best and a fair chance to them to be healthy as well. 🙂

May we all keep being our best and giving our best, and helping other mamas to do the same! xoxo

By: Brenda Jackson

Brenda Jackson — Fri, 22 Mar 2019 22:00:49 +0000

In reply to Christina. Babywise repeatedly says to “listen to your baby’s hunger cues,” “do not be a clave to the clock,” and “full feedings are always the goal.” You are exactly right. Go on YouTube and type in “Babywise” and just watch the dozens of non commercial videos made by stand alone moms who read and implemented Babywise. Several of these moms have over 50,000 views; that is because it works, they weren’t paid, and their babies eat full feeding while gaining weight and sleeping well. It is funny how many critics speak of a rigid schedule and a bond breaking force of crying and loneliness. Babywise is the opposite of all of these and everyone that reads it knows this. Pedatician Bucknam (author) has a successful practice for 30 years and thousands of moms/babiies. He has overseen all 5 revisions of Babywise since the first version in 1990 with 160 pages. Today’s edition has 279 pages. The strongest critics of Babywise never mention their own baby, their personal experience with the methods of Babywise, or any mention that they read the book. They usually assassinate one of the two authors’ character while stating false ties to “cry it out” to label the book. I say: observe families with 1-3 year olds that were raised on Babywise and others raise by attachment demand feeding. Which homes seem well rested, sharp, energetic, and happy compared to others that appear constantly exhausted, in chaos, grumpy, and constantly on edge. Then decide for yourself how you would like to see your family’s future. Best wishes to all.

By: Janelle Reid

Janelle Reid — Mon, 12 Nov 2018 19:34:38 +0000

In reply to Wanda S Levy.

Hi @Wanda S Levy, I just replied to your other comment as well, but I also thought I’d leave you with a different resource here if you want to download it and pass it on to your daughter-in-law: https://www.babysleepsite.com/15-free-baby-sleep-facts-new-parents-must-know/
The link will help you sign up to receive our free guide with 15 tips for new parents to help with the super early weeks. It’s a great resource. I hope it can help!

By: Wanda S Levy

Wanda S Levy — Sat, 10 Nov 2018 17:25:57 +0000

My daughter in law tries to follow it to a “T” with a baby that is showing it doesn’t work for her and she is 6 weeks old and mom still makes her go hungry for as long as 45 minutes! You are not doing anything good here if you ask me! So very scary!

By: Neosha

Neosha — Tue, 27 Mar 2018 02:20:35 +0000

In reply to Katerin. @Katerin - Thank you for your comment, and yes, Babywise is just not for everyone! Great to hear you were able to use bits and pieces, though! Please stop back in to "see" us again soon.

By: Katerin

Katerin — Sat, 24 Mar 2018 02:45:50 +0000

Personally Babywise technic was too stressful for me! I tried it and it wasn’t good for my baby or for me! But I did use the principle of making routine and some of their advises

By: Debbye

Debbye — Wed, 17 Aug 2011 14:44:35 +0000

@ Jessica Miller- Thank you for writing, and you obviously feel very strongly about the Babywise ways. I’m sure many families are happy with the book, and hopefully (like every other piece of advice), take it with a grain of salt, and make it work for them without compromising their parenting philosophies.

@ Lori- Thank you for sharing what works for you!

By: Lori

Lori — Tue, 16 Aug 2011 22:33:41 +0000

There is no way I could let a newborn cry for even 10 minutes unless I was in the shower or something and just could not get there. My little one was colicky and nursed every hour at one point. He only ever made it to 2.5 hours. Even once he started solids and now at a year old, he eats or nurses every 2 hours. I do think routine is important, and my little guy does not nap well if he gets too far off of his routine. We try to stay within 30 minutes or so, but our schedule is just a guide. It does make it easy if I have to leave him with a sitter, though.

By: jessica miller

jessica miller — Sun, 07 Aug 2011 19:07:29 +0000

Imagine I took a piece of poop wrapped it up beautifully and presented it to you as a great gift. Once opened it would still be nothing more than a stinky piece of poo. That’s how i feel about “Becoming Babywise.” It’s presented a s the great gift to new parents but once opened it’ s nothing more than a piece of crap (pardon the expression) from start to finish.
Why do I detest this book so much? I think many would like oto give the impression that only those who practice attachment parenting would find fault with it. However, I’m oppposed to this book with every cell of my being because I am a Mother. Enzo takes mothers out of the mother/baby equation and turns them into robots. Where is the tenderness, responsiveness, and love?
This book wasn’t designed to help infants sleep through the night but rather to make the “job” of parenting as convenient for parents as possible. This so called “expert” (or better yet quack) mocks “maternal instincts” in his book and likens it to merely a cliche. Human mothers have been caring for their young for thousands of years and did a fantastic job of it until middle aged men such as Enzo decided to call themselves experts on Mothering and dictating to women how to care for their young.
The AAP issued a media alert for a reason. Parents who strictly follow this mans “program” put babies at risk and sever the close bond between mother and child that stems from instinctual and responsive parenting. Period.
The title of the article should read “Warning Babywise isn’t right for any baby!”