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Exhausted and Confused?   Yes! I need help and more sleep.
Exhausted and Confused?   Yes! I need help and more sleep.
Exhausted and Confused?   Yes! I need help and more sleep.

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  1. Emily DeJeu says

    @ krystle — pat on the back to you, mama, for seeking some medical help! I, too, am so glad you didn’t try to wait it out — would’ve likely been miserable for you both.

    Keep us posted on how the Zantac helps her, Krystle! I hope this is the beginning of better sleep for you both…

  2. krystle says

    well went to the doc today. baby girl has silent reflux so we are starting her on zantac so i hope this helps. there is a huge difference in her cry at night now, than when we started her sleep training a month ago. she tries so hard o go back to sleep… sucks the heck out of her thumb crying the whole time. im glad i went and didn’t put her thru it any longer. it has only been bad for a couple nights i think it has progressed over the last month since she has been sleeping on her back at night.

  3. Emily DeJeu says

    @ Jen — thanks so, so much for sharing the details of your experience with sleep training! Feedback like this is so, so helpful to our community of parents. I’m so glad to hear that CIO was so successful for you, and that you’ve managed to get your little guy sleeping so well. Congrats! 🙂

  4. Emily DeJeu says

    @ Brenda — are you wanting to shift his nursing so that more happens during the day? Or is the nighttime nursing fine for you?

    @ Melissa — so glad you found the article helpful and encouraging! I thought Miriam made an excellent point when she said that it’s a little bit silly to expect all mother-baby pairs to stick to the same schedule.

    @ Zainab — I’m so sorry to hear you’re struggling 🙁 You must be exhausted! First, rest assured that after 12 months, children don’t need night feedings. So your daughter doesn’t need to nurse 5-6 times during the night.

    As for how to fix it — why don’t you check out our free guides for tips on getting started? Since your daughter is 12 months, she’s kind of straddling the line between babyhood and toddlerhood; therefore, I’d recommend you check out both our baby guide and our toddler guide. You can access the baby guide here: https://www.babysleepsite.com/baby-sleep-through-night-free-ebook/ and you can access the toddler guide here: https://www.babysleepsite.com/toddler-sleep-training-secrets-free-ebook/

    Of course, if you’d like helping in solving this issue, you could browse our consultation packages: https://www.babysleepsite.com/baby-toddler-sleep-consulting-services/

    Hope these resources help you get started, Zainab! Thanks for commenting. And keep us posted on what happens!

  5. Jen says

    When my baby was was 4 1/2 months, he started waking every hour every night. It was painful, and he continued to do it no matter what we tried (trying to nurse for less time, husband soothing him, earlier/later bedtime, not nursing before bed, etc). When he turned 6 months, we sleep trained him using Cry It Out. This was also painful, and went on for many weeks, not at all like the stories I read about “We let our baby cry for 45 minutes one night, and he was instantly night weaned!”. We started by “training” him to only eat a few times a night, with my husband weaning him off the earliest feeding using a bottle and reducing the amount of milk every few days. If he woke only an hour or two after the last feeding, we let him cry, sometimes for 20-30 minutes, which was VERY hard, but I always felt better in the morning because he never seemed worse for wear, and it didn’t affect his mood during the day at all. I can now happily report that my wonderful, happy, bubbly 7 1/2 month old is practically completely night weaned, and sleeps nearly every night from 8pm-5am, when I give him a quick nurse and he sleeps another 1-2 hours. Not matter what you might think about CIO, I can tell you, It Works. And if you have a baby and are thinking about trying CIO, don’t wait too long. I have read that around 8-10 months, it becomes much harder, which is why we started at 6 months.

  6. Zainab says

    Hi friends,
    I am a mother of a 1yr old girl… and my problem is quite similar to Louis.. 🙁 My daughter is on breast feed. Its good not to have hassle of bottles or feeders, but my problem is that she need comfort nursing throughout the night for 5-6 times.. she gets up for 3-5 min and then get back to sleep… its horrible.. at times she wakes up every half an hour…she does that since she was only one month 🙁 plz suggest me something…

  7. Melissa says

    Oh my gosh, four babies and a stack of books read and I’m just now realizing I have small measuring cups! This explains sooo much about my children’s habits, from why they never went three hours between feeds early on (more like 1-2 hours) and why mine just don’t sleep through the night like so many others’ babies. It takes until well after the first birthday. It is extremely comforting to know it really isn’t that we are just constantly handling night time wrong, it’s that they need more feeds for longer than others. My 8 month old and I will just let things happen as they will. Thank you for this!

  8. Brenda says

    My 9 month old seems to only nurse at night time. Rarely he will nurse once late in the afternoon. He then nurses about 4 times from evening to morning.

  9. Emily DeJeu says

    @ aneeza — I wouldn’t say you’re depriving him, provided he’s nursing plenty during the day, and especially since you’ve recently added in a bottle of formula. Some 10 month olds need one night feeding, but others don’t. Has he been waking at this time ever since you cut the night feedings at 7 months? Or is this a new problem?

  10. Emily DeJeu says

    @ Rolene — it’s never too late! I’d say you’re in a good sleep training window here — your baby’s still a baby and not yet a toddler, which means things will (probably) go a little more smoothly (sleep training toddlers can be rough!)

    It does sound, though, like your daughter has some pretty strong nursing associations, and those, like any sleep association, aren’t exactly easy to break right away. It can be done, but it takes some time and some patience.

    If you want to tackle sleep training on your own, you could start with our free sleep through the night guide: https://www.babysleepsite.com/baby-sleep-through-night-free-ebook/ If you decide you want help with sleep training, though, you could check out our available consultation packages: https://www.babysleepsite.com/baby-toddler-sleep-consulting-services/

    Thanks for reaching out, Rolene, and for commenting! Hope we’re able to help you through your daughter’s sleep training. 🙂