Hi @Jo –
Thank you for writing to us. I’m sorry to hear your family is having sleep problems and your son is struggling with so many night wakings and with short or non-existent naps too! You’re not alone!! We’ve been helping families like yours since 2008 and we would love to help you, too!
It is common for babies to learn to self-settle at bedtime, but then struggle when they wake at night, or when they are partially waking at night. Naps can be a bit tougher too, so again, you’re definitely not alone!
Your goal will be to teach him how to fall back to sleep at night, (and asleep for naps) on his own, as you did with bedtime. This can be challenging, especially when you’re also working on fixing the schedule.
We have E-books and premium resources available where the research has been done for you, if you’d like some help. Or, for the fastest service, we have expert sleep consultants who can help you determine why your baby is not sleeping well if you’re interested. We are able to tap into our 10+ years of experience with thousands of families to quickly diagnose your sleep problems.

In our consultation packages, we will work with you on a step-by-step plan to which you can commit and feel good about. All of our email consultation packages for new clients include a Personalized Sleep Plan, which is a detailed guide customized just for your family given your specific sleep history, which you will share via an online questionnaire that takes just about 15-30 minutes (not necessarily all in one sitting).
You can read about all of our sleep consultation packages and purchase directly online here:
https://www.babysleepsite.com/baby-toddler-sleep-consulting-services
I hope I’ve been able to help answer your questions so that you can get started sleeping better right away Jo! If you have any additional questions, or if you need any assistance at any time, please let us know. We’re here to help!

Hi, my 7.5 month old son self settles no problem at bedtime but wakes regularly from around 1am until 7am and I find feeding is the only way to settle him (unless I do CIO for anything up to 1.5hrs and risk waking his siblings). He is breastfed mainly but has a formula feed before bed at around 6pm. He doesn’t nap well either. I’m lucky if I get two naps a day and only the morning one is guaranteed and sometimes only lasts 20-30 minutes. He cat naps in the car and pushchair on the school run. He is eating 3 solids meals a day. Porridge for breakfast, a selection of fruit and veg at lunch and a meal for dinner. He has regular breast feeds throughout the day but usually doesn’t take much and is easily distracted. He is waking 4-5 times a night and by 5-6am I often give up and bring him into our bed but even then he still doesn’t sleep well and I have to feed him to stop him crying…. please help!!!!

Hi Ellen,
Thanks for checking out The Baby Sleep Site! This is a tough question to answer briefly – the majority of healthy babies this age can be night-weaned completely, but there are always a few who aren’t ready. It can depend how much milk vs. solids they’re taking in during the day, and sometimes on when dinner/last snack is, to say whether they can make it through the night.
We do have a quiz on whether your baby is ready to night wean that might be helpful for you here: https://www.babysleepsite.com/night-weaning-2/night-weaning-quiz/
And if you’re a member, this is a great kind of question to ask a sleep consultant, either in Member Chat on any article or blog post in our Members Area. They can look at your entire schedule and get a better sense of what’s going on, and give you some ideas. I hope this helps!

@Zoe Rose – Hi, and thank you for visiting the Baby Sleep Site. I am sorry you’ve been experiencing a mix of good and bad nights with your daughter – that can be difficult to figure out and to go through! If you haven’t yet, you might find some helpful tips by downloading our free ebook to help your child sleep through the night. You can sign up to download the free guide here: https://www.babysleepsite.com/baby-sleep-through-night-free-ebook/
Hang in there! I hope this passes for you quickly and let us know if it doesn’t and we would be happy to provide some more information. 🙂

@Zee Hi there and welcome to our sleepy little village! I’m sorry to hear your 9-month old is still waking 2-3 times at night to feed. That’s considered excessive for his age. If his doctor has approved night-weaning, you may want to consider our gentler night-weaning approach we outline in our e-Book, The 3-Step System to Help Your Baby Sleep. Here is the chapter on night-weaning, if you are interested in becoming a member of the site: https://members.babysleepsite.com/help-your-child-sleep/night-weaning/ . You can ask a question on any page of the e-Book or join in live chat, if you have any questions. Good luck!

@ Linda – Good question! You may be experiencing the 8-10 month sleep regression, honestly. This can be a tough time to work on sleep and to work on night weaning. I’d suggest waiting until this phase seems to have passed (maybe once she’s 10 – 10.5 months?) and then work on pushing that feeding back until you can cut it out altogether.

Hope this helps, Linda! Thanks for commenting 🙂