Hi @Julie –
Thanks for writing to us about your (almost) 4 month old! It sure sounds like the 4 month regression is going on over there, and yes, many do not outgrow this for weeks, months, or even years! For help through this, feel free to use the tips on this page, and I’d also recommend taking a look at this schedule and making sure that naps and bedtime are at good times for him:
https://www.babysleepsite.com/schedules/4-month-old-schedule/
I hope that things smooth out soon Julie! If you need more help, please contact us for more information!

Hi Sarah,
Thank you for your comment! I’m sorry to hear that your 3.5 month-old is going through the 4 month sleep regression! It is definitely a tough time, so please hang in there. If your baby is overall healthy and once she is 4 months-old, we do recommend doing some gentle sleep coaching to help her start to learn to sleep independently, and re-settle herself when she’s not hungry but is waking at night. I’d recommend checking out our sleep training series, which takes you step-by-step on how to set up for sleep coaching, select a good method for your family and baby, and make a plan. The first article in that series is here: https://www.babysleepsite.com/sleep-training/sleep-training-from-no-cry-to-cry-series-part-1/

We do also offer the DIY Express Sleep Plan or the personalized consultations with a baby sleep expert if you need more support through the process: https://www.babysleepsite.com/baby-toddler-sleep-consulting-services/

I hope this helps! Please let us know if you have any questions!

My 14week old baby used to sleep all the way through till 6/7am but the last week or so she has been waking at 2am and 4am. I do her feed at 7pm and I change her nappy then half sleep feed her at 10pm. When she wakes during the night I do not feed her I just try settle with dummy as I know she’s not hungry (tried feeding the first 2x but she would just fall asleep in my arms)
So I think it’s like you say she can’t settle herself at night 🙁

@Samira – Thank you for reading and for sharing with us. Feeding young babies can be quite exhausting and confusing! Though babies your daughter’s age aren’t feeding quite as frequently as she did even 6 weeks ago, their tummies are still quite small and require frequent fill-ups. Your baby’s healthcare provider can help you understand best how often/much you should expect your little girl to eat as he/she will take into account all of your daughter’s health needs when making a suggestion. Please consider double checking with him/her, Samira. Hang in there!

I have a 3 month old baby. She wakes up evey two hours in average for feeding sometimes 1.5 hour and sometimes 2.5 hour. I breast feed her and she takes one breast only for 3-5 min each time. I dont have enough milk supply so sometimes I formula feed her ( she used to have (50-60 ml every two hours and now it is 90-120 ml every two hours)
She has statred missing day naps or having very short naps (30- 45 min) which is frustrating and I cannot do anything during the day!
She wakes 4 times every night which is killing me and I feel I have aged 10 years in this 3 month?.
She recently refuses to take my breast during the day and I have to pump. She takes it at night only when she is super skeepy otherwise she wont take it!

I saw your 3 month old feeding schedual which shiws feedings every 2-2.5 hour. I thought babies should be fed every 4 hour at this age!

Please help me???

Hi @Jenny – Thank you for writing! I am sorry that sleep has been so tough for you and your family! We understand, and you are not alone! It does not sound like your sweet little girl is spoiled, but that she just does not know how to fall asleep on her own, and back to sleep on her own quite yet. You can help her learn this, and we can help! As you’ve read in this article, this age can be a difficult one for many babies!
If you would like personalized help to work through this, please consider our Personalized Sleep Consultation packages or our selection of e-Books. If you choose to purchase a consultation package, one of our trained expert sleep consultants will craft a Personalized Sleep Plan for you and your daughter, based on both your unique family history and on our own experience working with thousands of parents from around the world. Then, your consultant will help you implement the plan at home, and will answer any follow-up questions you may have. The consultant will also make changes to the plan as necessary. You can read about all of our sleep consultation packages and purchase directly online here:
https://www.babysleepsite.com/services?
And, you can read about our Do It (Mostly) Yourself options here, if you don’t think you want or need expert help:
https://www.babysleepsite.com/diy/
Good luck Jenny! And please contact us if you would like more info at any time!

Please i need some help! My baby is 5 months old and from a week its been such a struggle to put her down to sleep at night. I fed her and she falls asleep in my hands , i keep her for 10-15min and when i try to put her on the crib she wakes up and starts crying and its just a nightmare. sometimes she cries for 2 hours and at the end she is exhausted and she wants to fall asleep but she she just fights it so i have to give her water or a little more milk so she can fall asleep. She wakes up 2 times at night and since last night she start fighting the sleep during the night as well. She is a formula fed baby. I want to say that since the second week of her life she has been on a schedule meaning 8pm bath, massage, 8:20-8:30 last feeding and crib time , 9pm she is out and its been like that till last week! The day naps are a little hard for us but she sleeps 2-3h during the day either in the stroller or if i put her to sleep. She hates pacifiers, ive tried over 10 brands. Ive tried putting her down at night and leaving the room but she doesnt cry , she screams, its brutal so i dont think thats an option for us! Is she already spoiled? Please help!

Hi @Lydia, thanks for writing to us. I’m sorry you’ve been struggling with your little one’s sleep! I know how difficult it is as a mom to struggle with comparing ourselves and our babies to others, but try your best not to! Some babies can sleep through the night that early, but the average baby doesn’t, regardless of formula versus breastmilk. Here is a link to a sample schedule we have for a 4 month old that offers a breastfeeding schedule and a formula fed baby schedule you can refer to and make sure your baby is getting all he needs in a 24 hour period: https://www.babysleepsite.com/schedules/4-month-old-schedule/
Additionally this is the age where babies can start to develop sleep associations and I know (as a EBF mom myself) that is is super easy to create a sleep association to the breast for our babies. We have lots of articles on sleep associations and how to work through teaching your child to sleep without them, so click around on our articles and I’m sure you’ll find tons of helpful information.
Additionally, if you want more help that is specific to your exact situation, we’d love to help with that as well. In addition to our blog we have a variety of exclusive content – ebooks, teleseminars, personalized consulting with a sleep consultant, and those are all available to you should you be interested. Please just contact us directly at contact@babysleepsite.com and we can help explain those options in greater detail for you so you can get through this challenging time. Hang in there! I’m having my 3rd soon too, and I’m a little nervous about how crazy that’s going to be, but I’m sure you’re doing amazing and will get in the swing of things soon (especially when you start getting more sleep)!