Comments on: 5 Tips for How To Handle Your Toddler’s Temper Tantrums (Especially Sleep-Time Tantrums!)

By: Debbye @ The Baby Sleep Site

Debbye @ The Baby Sleep Site — Thu, 03 Oct 2019 00:49:52 +0000

In reply to Jordan.

Hi @Jordan – Thanks for writing, and we’d love to help! Since your step daughter was sleeping well previously, I would suspect developmental changes disrupting her sleep. Developmental milestones which are so prevalent in the first years do have a tendency to temporarily disrupt even the best sleepers, and sleep issues are very common right around the 2nd birthday! Typically this is just a phase. Many toddlers, within a matter of weeks, return to their usual sleep schedule. The key is to remain consistent with how you are putting to sleep and how you are getting her back to sleep to avoid creating any sleep associations that could linger after this phase passes. Here are a few links that may help ease you and your husband through this:
https://www.babysleepsite.com/toddlers/toddler-sleep-regressions-explained/
https://www.babysleepsite.com/toddlers/5-things-about-2-year-old-toddler-sleep/
If things do not smooth out soon, we can definitely help more, and you might consider one of our Personalized Sleep Consultation packages. All of our e-mail packages come with a Personalized Sleep Plan, which is a small book written just for your family given your specific history you share with your sleep consultant. This will provide you with step-by-step instructions of how to achieve each and every one of your goals for your toddler.
You can read about all of our sleep consultation packages here: https://www.babysleepsite.com/services/
Hang in there Jordan, and please contact us if you have any questions!

By: Jordan

Jordan — Sat, 28 Sep 2019 19:54:36 +0000

My 27 month step daughter is having a really hard time when it comes to bed time and it has never been like this. Her father and I have been together for a year now, so I know that it’s not normal at all. It started about a week ago when she came home from her moms, we have her (and her twin sister) one week and then their gone a week. I have a three year old also.
So we’ve had a routine down for all of our girls the whole time. We get home at 5:45, we have dinner together, they all have a bath,some play time and then bed at 8:15.
But recently, just one of the girls has been resisting sleep, and climbing out of her bed, running and screaming following us out of her room. We’ve tried putting her back in bed and making sure she’s asleep before tiptoeing out, but it’s like she knows what we’re doing and shes back to chasing us!
I just don’t know what else to do

By: Janelle Reid

Janelle Reid — Tue, 10 Apr 2018 18:47:23 +0000

In reply to Kim.

Hi @Kim, thank you for writing to us and I am so sorry that you’ve been struggling with your toddler’s sleep. We would love to help! If you haven’t yet, we have a free guide on toddler sleep that may provide some tips you haven’t tried yet. You can sign up to receive the guide here: https://www.babysleepsite.com/toddler-sleep-tips
If you want more in depth help, our sleep consultants are here and would love to work with you through this. You can email us directly and we can help find the package that is best for your situation. Our email is contact@babysleepsite.com
Hang in there! I hope this helps.

By: Kim

Kim — Sat, 07 Apr 2018 23:06:35 +0000

Hi there!
My 3.5 year old has been an amazing sleeper since about 8 months of age. However, several weeks ago she began having anxiety like attacks at bed and naptime. She begs my husband or I to lay with her and rub her back until she’s asleep. She is waking in the middle of the night crying and requiring the same thing to go back to sleep. Her naps have gone from several hours to maybe 1 if I’m lucky and that is after having a major meltdown of begging me to sleep with her. We have tried sticker charts and although they worked for a while they dont any more. Not sure what is going on and how to handle it!

By: Emily DeJeu

Emily DeJeu — Mon, 21 Sep 2015 11:42:17 +0000

In reply to Johanna Calhoun.

@ Johanna Calhoun – oh, boy, this sounds difficult! So sorry you’re going through this. A few things I’m seeing: for one, it sounds like your daughter may not be able to fall asleep on her own? Is this right? If so, then you will want to sleep coach and begin working towards more independent sleep, as that will help with the tantrum problem. You can download our free toddler e-book and get started sleep coaching right away: https://www.babysleepsite.com/toddler-sleep-training-secrets-free-ebook/ Second, it sounds like you may also be dealing with the 2 year sleep regression; you can read more about that here: https://www.babysleepsite.com/toddlers/5-things-about-2-year-old-toddler-sleep/ Finally, it sounds like your daughter may associate YOU with the tantrums and difficulty falling asleep, which is totally normal; lots of kids have particular behaviors associated with one parent but not the other. To fix this, you could have her father put her to bed each night for an extended period of time (a week or more); then, you could begin to BOTH put her to bed at night, and then work from there.

Hope these tips help, Johanna – best of luck to you! 🙂

By: Johanna Calhoun

Johanna Calhoun — Sat, 19 Sep 2015 04:09:57 +0000

Hi, I am desperatly asking for tips or suggestions how to handle my almost two years old tantrum before bed. She refuses and when it is time to put her in her crib she flips, put her legs, arms through the bars of the cribs hurting herself. I stay in the room and try to pull her away and try to avoid that she her herself badly. She can do this angry dance for an hour and finally be so exhausted to fall sleep but the waking up cranky. I am to the point to let her sleep in my chest for an hour because I am exhausted to fight with her, but I am want to be able to put her in the crib withouth her trowing a tantrum. Now this has change a few months ago I was able to rock her to sleep and put her in her crib and boom two hours of a nap sometimes but now with this change in her behavior and I know my also for sure get only 15 minutes og naps. She sleep trough the night good no problems and daddy put her to bed at night in 5 minutes no fuzz. Please suggestions I know consistency is a big one so with the time I am on but the routine like I said I have gave in.

By: Emily DeJeu

Emily DeJeu — Fri, 21 Aug 2015 00:46:05 +0000

In reply to Jeana. @ Jeana - Oh, I so sympathize...I have three kids, and all of them had some wickedly awful tantrum spells. Sounds like you are right in the thick of it...hang in there! Thanks so much for commenting; I'm so glad you found this article helpful! :)

By: Jeana

Jeana — Tue, 18 Aug 2015 17:40:39 +0000

Wow!! I am so thankful this came across my email! My 2.5 year old who is the sweetest most loving baby in the world has turned into a tantrum throwing little dude! He is still sweet but there are certain triggers like leaving grandma’s house after I’m done at work, bedtime, breaking his perfect chip, etc. that have been setting him off. Now at bedtime he screams at us not to leave and I do not believe in “cry it out” so I sit in the glider until he dozes off. He then wakes up scared and screaming a few hours later and if I don’t get there fast enough he spits and goes completely off.
My husband and I are trying to be patient but its tough and these tips will help us tremendously! I actually started calling my mother in law beforehand to prepare him for going home so that when I get there I don’t just grab him and go. Its much better when I do that.
He is so smart and speaks so well but I guess communicating that is too much for him right now.
He also just potty trained last month so there are a lot of changes in his little world.
Thanks for the information!!

By: Emily DeJeu

Emily DeJeu — Thu, 13 Aug 2015 15:02:28 +0000

In reply to Suzanne.

@ Suzanne – well, to begin, this is normal behavior for a 2 year old. Tantrums are frustrating, but they are also developmentally normal, so no worries there! Now, as for how to handle them – this article, on how to set limits for your toddler, may help: https://www.babysleepsite.com/toddlers/limit-setting-toddler/ That will at least be a good start in helping you understand how to deal with the tantrum behavior 🙂

Hope this helps, Suzanne! Best of luck to you.

By: Suzanne

Suzanne — Wed, 12 Aug 2015 14:16:08 +0000

My son is 2yrs and 3 months and takes terrible tantrum when his daddy leaves the house (he minds him). He throws himself on the floor and bangs his head. Hes been like this a few months and is getting worse. Hes not speaking yet so i know he could be frustrated too. Nothing seems to work.