Exhausted and Confused?   Yes! I need help and more sleep.
Exhausted and Confused?   Yes! I need help and more sleep.
Exhausted and Confused?   Yes! I need help and more sleep.

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  1. Jaime says

    Thanks Emily! I have thought about sleep consultations, but unfortunately, right now, funds are a bit tight. As I mentioned, she was on a pretty good schedule until she turned 1 and then that’s when the troubles started. I’m hoping that she just settles back down and adjusts to the 1 nap a day routine quickly and begins to wake at around 7 or so in the morning instead of much earlier than that! We have been trying to put her to bed about 30 min earlier than what we used to, so hopefully that helps???

    • Emily DeJeu says

      @ Jaime – I hope it does! And you’re right in thinking that since this cropped up suddenly, it may just as well fade quickly as well.

      Good luck to you, Jaime!

  2. Jaime says

    Sorry – 1 more question I forgot to ask: Over the last couple of days, my daughter has also been waking up earlier than normal. On Saturday, she woke up at 6 and today (Monday) at 5:30. She will not fall asleep even when we let her fuss/cry it out. Once we enter her room to even try and soothe her, she’s awake. So on days like these – how should I alter her nap? And how can I ensure that this doesn’t become the norm? She is sick right now, so I’m hoping that the early rising is just a phase and not permanent! PLEASE PLEASE HELP! She used to be on a very predictable schedule until she turned 1, then I’m not sure what all went wrong!

    • Emily DeJeu says

      @ Jaime – I’d definitely chalk the early rising up to illness, if it’s not the norm. Illness can make sleep CRAZY. I’d say offer comfort, for sure, but don’t spend a week creating a new sleep habit (i.e. don’t bring her into your bed early and let her sleep with you until her usual wake-up time, unless you want to do that long-term).

      Have you thought about trying a sleep consultation, by chance? Sounds like you are dealing with a variety of issues here; it may help to have a consultant work w/ you to sort it out. You can see our personalized consulting options here:

      Hope this helps!

  3. Jaime says

    @Emily, thank you so much for the taking the time out to answer my question. We have been trying to put her down early for bedtime, but about how much earlier should we aim for? Also, We just started her in partime daycare last week (she will go 3 full days a week) and they only offer 1 nap during the day after lunch – should I try and get my daughter on that same schedule so that there’s no confusion for her from switching back and forth? If so, can you please tell me a good approximate schedule for how her day should be? I’ve been through this website and the schedules section quiet a bit, but still not sure how much of a nap I should let her have and still make sure to keep her bedtime and those sleep hours in tact? Thanks in advance!

    • Emily DeJeu says

      @ Jaime – sure thing! In this case, given that you’re on a daycare schedule for part of the week, then it might be advisable to move to a one-nap-a-day schedule. While we technically like to wait until 15-18 months to transition from 2 naps to 1, daycare can complicate that. It’s usually easier for parents just to go with the daycare schedule and change bedtime to accommodate the nap transition. I’d start w/ the daycare’s nap schedule, and then try to duplicate that at home. You could use our sample 18 month schedules + our custom schedule maker set at 18 months to get approximate timing 🙂

      Best of luck to you, Jaime!

  4. Jaime says

    Hi, it seems like my daughter who is about 12.5 months old is going through the 12 month sleep regression. How do I help her (and myself) get through that? She has been resisting all naps (usually 2 a day) for the past 2 weeks, not just the morning nap. For the first week, we went through our normal nap routine and as soon as I put her in the crib, she would cry. Before this, she would just roll over and fall asleep or take a few minutes and then eventually drift off. The only way that I’ve been able to get her to nap is either in the carseat or the stroller. I don’t want to cultivate this habit after trying so hard to make her an independent sleeper, but I’m not sure howelse to get her to nap. She used to have about 3.5 hours worth of naps and these days, sometimes we’re lucky to get 30 min in the day! Needless to say, I feel like we no longer have a solid routine due to this “disturbance”. Please HELP!!

    • Emily DeJeu says

      @ Jamie – Oh, this is tough! So sorry you’re dealing with this, Jamie. I think in this case, you might be better off using an earlier bedtime, but still putting your daughter down for her usual naps, as you always do. She may fuss, and it’s fine to offer comfort, but doing this will help to preserve her naptimes, and the early bedtime will ensure that she’s not getting too overly tired. You could try this for a week-10 days and then reevaluate.

      Hope this helps, Jaime – let us know how it goes! Best of luck to you. 🙂

  5. Emily DeJeu says

    @ Julia – ah, I see. In this case, you could, for now, simply check in on her every time she wakes and offer reassurance. If she fusses often, I’d suggest simply doing whatever you need to do to make thing work. Given how stressful the medical problems sound, it might be best just to do what you need to do to survive for now.

    If things begin to improve with treatment, or if your daughter seems to show signs of being ready for sleep coaching, then you can move towards using the strategies in that free toddler guide.

    Hope this helps, Julia! Best of luck to you 🙂

  6. Julia says

    @Emily, thanks – we have a team of professionals we’re working with, it’s just a long, slow road. Until we can formally sleep train, do you have any recommendations on how to handle her non-pain related wakings? Just keep attending to her?

  7. Julia says

    How do you help baby through these sleep regressions?

    In short, my little girl is turning 1 next week. She has always had sleep issues, however, what we thought were simply sleep issues/needed to be sleep trained in the early months we now know are reactions to multiple food allergies and intolerances. Her biggest reaction is acid reflux and night wakings. We held off sleep training until we had “cry confidence” – and we’re still waiting! We actually have pretty good confidence now, but if she reacts to a new food all bets are off. Her allergies have become our biggest issue, so sleep has been on survival mode until we make progress there. The problem is that she’s such a bad sleeper that anything can disrupt sleep – like the mental leaps. I think she’s going through the 12 month leap now; waking constantly not in pain, and/or simply staring at me for 1-2 hours as she can’t sleep. How do I get through this?

    • Emily DeJeu says

      @ Julia – oh, this sounds tough! My first tip would be to get her food allergies and reflux well under control. See your healthcare provider about steps you can take to get those taken care of. We usually don’t recommend sleep training until all chronic health problems are being treated. Once that’s done, a great step would be to download our free toddler sleep guide (found here: for tips on how to get started with sleep training. Hope this helps, Julia; best of luck to you! 🙂

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    • Emily DeJeu says

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  9. lisa says

    Rachel, from the Amazon reviews of wonder weeks your timing may vary. Your little guys could be hitting the steps early.

  10. Rachel says

    I’m a big fan of the site and had just been thinking about the ‘wonder weeks’ when I saw a link to this article.
    Our ten month old son has been a pretty terrible little sleeper since 4 months. Then just about the ten month mark he started doing 6.30-7 at night and we really thought that we’d cracked it. Now a week later we are back to being up every hour or two and I am having to wrestle him into naps and back feeling so frustrated. He has been able to stand and cruise since 6 months and can walk now, so this is not really a case of him being excited by new found mobility. Indeed, in the past health visitors have commented bout what an early developer he is (and an incredibly active boy). Although just over 10 months old, the 52-55 week description seems to fit him better- is this possible?

    • Emily DeJeu says

      @ Rachel- certainly possible! Some babies focus on certain developmental skills sooner than others – that means that some babies will appear to hit milestones earlier, while others will show off those particular skills later.

      Let me ask if you’ve done any sleep coaching with your son before? Does your son know how to put himself to sleep independently? If sleep has been a pretty constant struggle, this may have less to do with mobility and leaps forward than it does with sleep associations…

      Thanks, Rachel! 🙂