Exhausted and Confused?   Yes! I need help and more sleep.
Exhausted and Confused?   Yes! I need help and more sleep.
Exhausted and Confused?   Yes! I need help and more sleep.

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  1. Tyron Sudbrock says

    greath content!

    • Debbye @ The Baby Sleep Site says

      Thanks @Tyron!

  2. Stressed Mumma says

    Hi, thanks for this article! We have real issues with our 4.5 year old and 2.5 year old (that share a room – redirected fron that article!) come bedtime. We have always had a super consistent bedtime routine, but once we say good night and leave the room they will talk, sing, yell, jump (you name it!) and completely wind each other up, until the whole house ends up upset, every night. Point 13 is where we get stuck! We don’t have any immediate consequences that they care about! The door has always been closed (their room is heated and they have never cared for it to be open). We are currently trying a bedtime stories app to help them fall asleep, which they love, and if they start talking, it goes off, and then if they keep talking, the 4 year old gets taken out to sleep in our bed (he doesn’t like it and the younger is still in a cot so has to stay). But this ends up happening every night, so obviously the consequences aren’t working. We can’t give them a “time out” – they are already in bed! And consequences like taking away toys are too far away for them to care about. We used to have them falling asleep separately (2.5 year old in a 2nd cot in our room, transferred when they were both asleep) but with a new baby that needs to be sharing our bedroom, we have to reclaim it from the older two! Please help!

    • Janelle Reid says

      Hi @Stressed Mumma, I’m so sorry to hear it’s been such a struggle to get your preschooler and toddler to bed at night! I’m sure that is extra challenging with another baby to take care of. Finding a consequence that works in the moment is definitely tricky, so you may need to get extra creative – I’m not sure exactly what that would be for you though! My son (he is 4) has been very motivated by a sticker chart knowing once he earns a certain amount of stickers, he will receive a prize. Maybe a positive reward for obeying would be a good motivator for them if there’s something they really want (that of course is reasonable for your family to give them with success).
      If things aren’t working still, please let us know. We have a TON of resources, and you may find working with a sleep consultant is extremely helpful in assisting you in thinking outside of the box in how to solve these issues. They have years of experience working with families in similar situations to you, so I know they have some tricks up their sleeve! Here is a link to read more about our sleep consulting if you are interested:
      And feel free to contact us directly at [email protected] if you need more information or help with anything. Hang in there!

  3. Amber says

    My daughter is 17 months. When she doesn’t get what she wants ie. Her soother, to play in the pantry, she lays down and screams and kicks. I sit beside her, sometimes put my hand on her, sometimes put my arms out for her to come to me when she is ready. I say nothing. She stops within a minute at most. But she does it several times a day. I think it might be the right thing to do as I’m not giving in while she screams. Depending what she wants I may give it to her after she stops though. It’s hard when there is no communication ability.

    • Janelle Reid says

      @Amber – Thank you for your comment! Toddler hood can be so tough. It sounds like you are balancing being firm but still loving and supportive to your daughter as she learns how to manage her developing emotions! Hang in there and thanks for stopping by. 🙂

  4. Cathey says

    Thank you, the list is so beneficial. My grandson test me over and over. When we talk I hold both of his hands and ask him to look at Granny. We are focused on each other. When we finish the discussion I ask “do you understand?”. Ok we hug and life goes on.

    • Jessica Diller says

      @Cathey Thank you for your taking the time to comment. I’m glad you found our article helpful! It is great when you feel able to successfully communicate! I hope you and your grandson continue to experience these wins together.

  5. Ride On Toys says

    This is a great list. My granddaughter is 2 years old and just starting to have some toddler “moments”. This is a great refresher course for me since I haven’t had a toddler in the house in ages. Love the Don’t Argue point….it can be very easy to get sucked into that argument depending on the situation and you do need to be able to recognize what you’re doing and stop it. Thanks for the info!
    .-= Ride On Toys´s last blog ..The Flaming InStep Street Rod Pedal Car =-.

  6. Terri says

    This is a really great list – I want to print it out for my husband too. For those of us learning about the world of a toddler for the first time, specific advice like this is so helpful. Thanks Nic for another great one!
    .-= Terri´s last blog ..Happy Birthday Aunt Sandy =-.

    • Nicole says

      @Terri You’re welcome! Glad you liked it! It is a long one, but reads fast. I probably could write a lot more!