Exhausted and Confused?   Yes! I need help and more sleep.
Exhausted and Confused?   Yes! I need help and more sleep.
Exhausted and Confused?   Yes! I need help and more sleep.

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  1. Sharon says

    I have a 9 week old who will not sleep more then 1 sleep cycle, he is unable to self soothe despite the help he gets from the SNOO, white noise, and a shusher. I give my boy a little snack before bed but try and make sure I pull him off before he is completely asleep and lay him down very drowsy. Unsure what to do because I know the short naps don’t equal the longs ones. I should add he is also swaddled and in a very dark room. I am also wondering if I am not keeping him awake long enough between naps because he is sooooo tired and I don’t have the heart to keep him up longer so we are at about 45-60 mins wake time.

    • Debbye @ The Baby Sleep Site says

      Hi @Sharon –
      Thank you for writing to us about your 9 week old baby! At this age, it is very common to not be able to self soothe completely, and it’s also common at this age to only take those short naps! Have you checked out our free sample schedules? Here is a link:
      Hopefully things will smooth out soon! Please contact us at any time if you’d like more help!

  2. Kate says

    I just want to thank you for this article. So many articles out there stress having 2 month olds on a strict schedule and sleeping through the night and it was making me feel awful. Reading this article made me say, “Yes! That sounds just like my baby!”. Very encouraging that I might be doing it right!

    • Danielle says

      Hi Kate,
      Thank you for your comment – I’m so glad to hear the article helped you! The vast majority of 2 month-olds are NOT on a strict schedule or sleeping through the night, and that’s completely normal for the age. You’re doing great! Hang in there 🙂

  3. Julie says

    Hi there! My 8 week old actually already sleeps from 7:30pm – 4am, with only a diaper change wake at around 1am! He currently already feeds well during the day (20-25 ounces of breast milk, bottle) on his own routine of every 2.5/3hr. We want to start focusing on self soothing and “awake” sleep, is it too soon for sleep training?

    • Debbye @ The Baby Sleep Site says

      Hi @Julie –
      Thank you for writing to us! It sounds like you have a great little sleeper in your home!! : ) We feel that it’s never too soon to start teaching good sleeping habits, so it may be a good time to look into what else you can do to help! If you haven’t yet, you can sign up to receive our free guide written just for families with young infants, “15 Baby Sleep Facts New Parents Need to Know” here:
      If you find that you’d like concise info put together for you, We do offer a few more in-depth solutions for parents who need more help. Our e-book, Essential Keys to Your Newborn’s Sleep, may be a good option for you. In it, we give you a complete toolkit to help your baby establish healthy sleep habits today and throughout the first year.
      You can read more about our wonderful newborn/young infant options here:
      Thanks again for writing to us and please let us know if you have any other questions at any time!

  4. Erin says


    My 2 month old has been following the Eat, Play, Sleep routine for a few weeks; however, my mother in law will be watching my son when I go back to work in a few weeks and she doesn’t believe in setting a schedule. I’ve been waking/keeping him awake after he eats for some play time but she doesn’t believe in “waking a sleeping baby”. Is there harm in him falling asleep after he eats even though he just woke up? Is this going to affect his nighttime sleep? Is this making his crankiness during his witching hour around 6pm worse?

    Please help 🙂



    • Danielle says

      Hi Erin,
      Thanks for writing! We’d be happy to help. At this age, setting a schedule can be helpful, but is not quite necessary. You can focus on keeping wake time, first nap, and bedtime roughly similar each day, and the rest should mostly fall into place as your son grows. Once he’s a little older and is down to 2 or 3 naps, then you’ll want to watch daytime sleep more to stop it from affecting night sleep. You can see our baby schedules page for more information about that. I hope this helps! Good luck with your return to work!

  5. Rochelle says

    Hi… this might seem like such a silly question but how should we go about putting our two month old to bed?
    Once she’s had her bath at 7/8pm, should she have her feed and then be in her Moses basket in our bedroom to sleep or should she be in her Moses basket downstairs asleep (lights dimmed etc) until we go up to bed at around 10-10.30, fed again then put in her bedroom basket? Thanks

  6. Lina says

    Hi, my baby boy just turned 2 months old yesterday but we’re still all over the place with breastfeeding and naps. It’s especially difficult at night time, I’m trying to put a routine in place so I’d start with giving him a bath but before I take any next step he’s already crying on top of his lungs with no way of getting him to calm down. I usually give him a bath between 7 and 8 but he usually only falls asleep at 10pm or later. The break is filled with lots of crying and lots of stress.. Any tips to solve my issues ? Thanks in advance !

    • Neosha says

      @Lina – Thank you for reading and for sharing with us. We’re sorry to hear that bedtime is a little tough for you guys – we know that can be frustrating and exhausting! Being sure that your little guy is not already very tired when you start your bedtime routine is important for a nice, calm(er) time. That would be the first place I’d suggest you start. You can find more tips here in this post on everything you want to know about bedtime: If you find you need more support to get to a more peaceful bedtime routine, don’t hesitate to connect with one of our sleep consultants who can help you set the stage for better day and night sleep while protecting your breastfeeding relationship with your little guy. You can read more about our lovely ladies here: Hang in there, Lina.

    • Esther says

      Since yesterday my two months baby is not sleeping like he used to. Today he refuse to sleep from morning till 9:00. But he use to sleep well at night

  7. Carly says

    My 8 week old baby is really struggling with naps over the last week. He was previously sleeping 3 hours consistently but now he is doing the 30 nap thing and waking up beside himself. I have tried everything to get. Him back to sleep but he just screams as he is still shattered. He is breastfed and I make a conscious effort to put him down awake in a dark room with white noise. He usually has a grizzle for a few minutes and then goes to sleep, then wakes after 30 minutes. He wakes 3-4 times a night, so we’re all pretty exhausted. He has reflux and eczema which he is medicated for. Not really sure what to do next.

  8. Alicia says

    Hi, my baby girl is 9 week + 3 days! She has always had trouble napping. The longest I can get her to nap without holding her or having her in a stroller is usually around 30 minutes but often her naps can be only 10 minutes cat naps! She fights sleep a lot and also needs (by my own fault) her pacifier to sleep. She doesn’t need the pacifier to fall back asleep at night but she does need it to go down and if she looses it before she’s fully asleep she gets upset and I have to go replace it. I don’t mind this because I do know that the risk of SIDS decreases with giving a baby a pacifier to sleep. I also try not to let her stay up longer than an hour (where possible) between when she opened her eyes to putting her down. I keep her very active between naps, lots of tummy time, practicing standing (bearing weight) engaging her with toys and dexterity practice where there are toys above her head and she tries to reach for them (also verbal stimulation). Any tips or recommendations? Also would it be bad to introduce a carrier? I have one and would love to use it especially in the afternoone where she just doesn’t seem to want to nap without me holding her but I don’t want to introduce something that could becomes a crutch!

    • Debbye @ The Baby Sleep Site says

      Hi @Alicia – Thanks for writing to us, and congrats on your new arrival! Sorry to hear that her naps are so very short, but this is pretty common! She is still young, and may need some more practice falling asleep for her naps on her own while not being held/etc, and you can definitely work on this gently now! These sample schedules should be helpful in planning for her sleep:
      And do feel free to work on her sleeping independently for just 1-2 naps, like her morning naps, and then holding her or using the carrier for other naps. This way, she can learn to sleep more independently while also getting some longer naps while you’re working on this. Good luck, and please contact us if you would like some one on one help from an expert with this!!

  9. Katie says

    My two month old will not sleep without being held. I have tried swaddling her and putting her in a sleep sack, but she does not like either, and she’s too young for me to have her “cry it out”. She seems to not like being flat on her back. I had a rock n play, which she would sleep in for naps during the day. It’s slightly inclined, but has been recalled. I am wondering if there are any tips you can give me about getting her to sleep on her own?

    • Danielle says

      Hi Katie,
      Thank you for your comment! I’m sorry to hear you’re having trouble getting your 2 month-old to sleep without being held. This is really common at this age and you are definitely not alone. One option that works for a lot of families is a baby carrier like a Moby or an Ergo, so you can “hold” her for sleep but still move around and get things done. Another option is to keep trying the swaddle – some babies want a deeper pressure option like the Miracle Blanket (this was the only one that would work for my kiddos :))
      I hope this helps! The first months are hard during the day, but it will get better, so hang in there!