Exhausted and Confused?   Yes! I need help and more sleep.
Exhausted and Confused?   Yes! I need help and more sleep.
Exhausted and Confused?   Yes! I need help and more sleep.

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  1. Caitlyn says

    I have a 6 almost 7 month old that we’ve started to sleep train. Naps seem to be our biggest struggle. I nurse and for a long time she would nurse and then be rocked for an hour plus because that was the only way I could get her to stay asleep. Now I’m trying to get her to fall asleep on her own and we’re struggling. My question is when nursing how do you prevent them from falling asleep while nursing? I’m trying to follow one of the sample schedules but what if I put her down at 9 and she doesn’t sleep? She can’t last for longer than 3 hours usually in between naps.

    • Emily DeJeu says

      @ Caitlyn – This is so normal! Naps are tough for lots of parents. As for how to keep your daughter from falling asleep while nursing: could you try moving the feeds a bit earlier, so that the end of the feed isn’t coming quite so close to the start of the nap? Some parents have success w/ moving the feeding and then doing something else before the start of the nap (like a mini nap routine).

      Hope this helps, Caitlyn; best of luck to you!

  2. Amber says

    I have a wonderful 14 week old boy. We are having a bit of a sleep conundrum. He will only sleep on me for most naps & at night. It’s getting to the point were he is so heavy that it’s physically hurting me to have him on me for so long. Plus at night he rubs his face back and forth and wiggles most of the night. I haven’t had much sleep in awhile. And I don’t think he is getting quality sleep either. I do rest while he is napping but it’s very hard for me to sleep during the day. I’ve tried to put him in his co- sleeper, next to me, baby wear and in a swing. He either wakes up immediately or cries until I put him on my chest & nurse. Is there anything else I can do? No CIO and husband works long hours….thank you so much.

    • Emily DeJeu says

      @ Amber — absolutely! There are many, many approaches before you get to full-on CIO 🙂 For help with naps, I’d suggest starting with our free nap guide ( For the nighttime sleep, I’d suggest downloading a copy of 5 Ways To Help Your Child Sleep Through The Night, our free sleep coaching guide (

      Bravo to you for starting this process now — at about 4 months, your son is ready and able to learn some good sleeping habits (and you are no doubt ready to start sleeping again!)

      We also have hundreds of articles on the blog that offer general helps and insights. If you click the ‘Articles’ tab on the main menu bar, you can search them by category; that may be a good option if you want to quickly find specific articles. We have an enormous ‘Sleep Training’ category; those articles will no doubt be helpful to you. 🙂

      Thanks for commenting, Amber! Hope these resources prove helpful to you.

  3. Emily DeJeu says

    @ Jackie — if you’re a few weeks in, and you haven’t seen any noticeable progress, it may be time to consider a new method. You mentioned that patting and hushing usually works — you may want to try sticking with that technique, instead of CIO. That’s actually a gentler method, too, which may make it easier for both of you to do!

    Hope this helps, Jackie! For more info on sleep coaching techniques, check out our free guide, found here:

    Thanks for commenting, Jackie! 🙂

  4. Jackie says

    I’ve been letting my 6 month old cry it out for a few weeks now. Some nights she cries for a few minutes, other nights it past 10 minutes of heavy crying. Every night is different and you never know what to expect. She wakes 2 times to nurse and it’s the same thing when she goes back to bed. Some nights she’ll go back to bed or fuss!! And when she fusses, she fusses!! She’ll usually fall back asleep with some patting and hushing. I don’t know if the CIO method is working for her because she has both good and bad nights. It’s not consistent. Any recommendations????

  5. Emily DeJeu says

    @ marisa o — This sounds really, really tough 🙁 I imagine that sharing a room with her makes it hard, too, since she’s able to see and hear you, and that means she’s less likely to soothe herself to sleep.

    We wrote an article about sleep training while room sharing; some of these tips may be helpful to you:

    Have you ever considered trying a sleep consultation? They’re great for babies and toddlers who seem especially resistant to their parents sleep coaching efforts. You can find out more about the consultation packages here: At the point you’re at, this is probably your best option for getting help with your daughter’s sleep.

    Again — I’m so sorry you’re going through this, marisa! Truly, it sounds like you’re a great mom, and that you’re trying your hardest to figure out what’s best for your daughter. I know it can be discouraging when friends and family members are critical of your parenting choices, but hang in there — remember, your family members aren’t the ones who have to sleep with a screaming toddler each night! Nothing you are doing is wrong, or bad, and you’re not a bad mom for trying to help your daughter learn to sleep on her own.

    Best of luck to you, marisa! Do let us know how you progress with your little girl. And don’t hesitate to reach out for help, or with more questions, either by leaving a comment or by e-mailing contact (at) babysleepsite (dot) com.