Comments on: Handling The Sleep Training (Or Lack Of!) Guilt

By: Neosha

Neosha — Tue, 14 May 2019 04:36:15 +0000

In reply to Erika. @Erika - So true! :) Fewer things beat a sleeping baby when you're sleep deprived! Thanks for sharing and please keep reading!

By: Erika

Erika — Fri, 10 May 2019 15:30:20 +0000

So much yes! I got all sorts of (unsolicited) advice about how to get my now 8.5 month old sleeping through the night. So many people seem to think what worked for their kids will work for yours. Even our 2 kids required different things! Everyone is happy when baby sleeps, though 😉

By: Angela

Angela — Thu, 03 Feb 2011 19:47:38 +0000

All I want to say about this article is …..AMEN!! I feel like I just wrote this myself. My daughter is exactly like your son and I get unsolicited advice all the time! Thank you for writing this, it gave me more confidence as a mom!

By: Hellen

Hellen — Tue, 19 Oct 2010 17:34:35 +0000

I cryed reading this…cause this is us. 🙁

By: Alison

Alison — Wed, 17 Feb 2010 19:54:37 +0000

I too am struggling with all of the advice out there. I’m soooo confused by all of the books with different ideas and suggestions and advice from other people. this article and many of your other articles on your site are sitting really nicely with me.
Your advice actually resonates with me. I know my little guy and what is right for him. I have to trust myself more. Because even though I am a first time mother I do know what is best for my spirited little man. Thanks Nicole:)

By: Nicole

Nicole — Mon, 23 Nov 2009 03:51:59 +0000

In reply to Stephanie. @Stephanie Those types of comments drive me crazy! :D I hope the trip goes well!! Many babies do much better than you anticipate. Good luck!

By: Stephanie

Stephanie — Wed, 11 Nov 2009 14:48:24 +0000

This article and all of the above comments make me feel so much less uptight! Unless you’ve had a baby with a “difficult” temperament, you cannot understand how important routine and structure are! There are few things as important to me as keeping my daughter well rested and this often leads to comments like “you need to teach her to be flexible,” etc. What I need to teach her is that I am providing for her needs! And sleep is one of the biggest, most important needs. We are going on a vacation several time zones away for the holidays and I am terrified of what this is going to do to her sleep, both while away and when we return. This trip was planned way before my baby was born, but if I knew then what I know now, I’d rather stay home! Oh well – at least I have the tools to retrain her when we come back!

By: Nicole

Nicole — Sun, 12 Jul 2009 17:22:20 +0000

In reply to Cynthia. @Cynthia At 4 months, schedules are hit and miss, so no, I would not wake him to stick to a feeding schedule. At this age it's best to keep wake times short and nap often. 30 minutes to an hour is normal at this age as short naps are common up through 6 months old. It sounds like you're doing a great job, mommy!

By: Cynthia

Cynthia — Sun, 05 Jul 2009 17:13:49 +0000

I am a new member with a 4 month old baby. Since birth our son has been dictating when he eats, sleeps and poos. We used to think he was a cat-napper and didn’t need any sleep duirng the day. My problem is trying to stick to a schedule, which I have begun to do, and getting my mother-in-law and nanny to stick to it as well. My mother-in-law has 8 other grandchildren and is very easy going with our son. He will feed him to make him go to sleep whenever our son begins to cry. I don’t want to make headway during the weekend only to have it ruined by the other care givers. Also, I have gone through the guilt phase of letting him cry for ten minutes and then putting the pacifier in a few times. My mommy micro chip cringes every time. He does sleep 30 min. to an hour, but the worse part is deciding if I should wake him to feed him to stick to his schedule, especially after all we go through to put him to sleep in the first place. Wow. A lot of info as you can see… new member. 🙂

By: Nicole

Nicole — Mon, 22 Jun 2009 01:08:14 +0000

In reply to Luitha. @Luitha Thank you for sharing your story! You went through a lot! I'm so glad you found my site and you learned about your son's sleep needs. My son was the same way that ANY little change in routine or if he became overtired, it would set us back at LEAST a week. We chose very very carefully what was "worth" changing his schedule. My husband's grandmother's funeral was on of the rare things we might attend. I'm sure some people thought we were crazy, but we knew what we'd go through for a week or two after something as simple as a family picnic. Now that he's older, he has outgrown this a lot, so hang in there! :)